The BIG Question

Suzanne and I continually receive the same question from fellow Twins, asked in a multitude of ways. The question invariably boils down to ‘How can I reunite with my Twin?’

Naturally, we all have many and varied opinions in respect to such a question, but I would like to refer to my direct experience as guidance. And from that guidance, I can give you a quick and disarmingly simple answer – ‘By following your heart.’

In order to be with my Twin, I followed my heart and ignored my ego as much as I could. My heart guided me to grow spiritually.

Being spiritual means wildly different things to different people, so I will try to express what it means to me.

My personal awakening began out of a deep desire to expand my consciousness. For me, that meant sweeping away the veil of illusion. It meant  breaking down that most convincing and apparently self-evident convention that each of us exists as a separate form – that we are locked down as fragments of matter in a meaningless, and quite possibly hostile sea of time and space.

Getting spiritual essentially meant developing a palpable sense of connection to something ineffable – to a sense of wonder that informs an inner knowing. And this knowing reminded me that my human experience, so apparently rooted in limitation and suffering, was but a fleeting manifestation, a self-constructed version of reality. I realized I had forgotten who I really was.

On a more practical level, I wanted to grow in awareness so that I would no longer feel limited and fearful. But to be honest, I didn’t much like what I discovered as the way to liberate myself. Sure, I had fun rediscovering that matter, time and space are illusory constructs of experience in the mind, but I did not want to hear that in order to cease being a prisoner to this illusion, I must first surrender to it.

I found it impossibly hard, as most of us do, to accept the unacceptable – to consciously allow the world and my experience to simply be as it is, warts and all. “But isn’t there so much that needs fixing and making good?” I would insist. And while meditating on acceptance, I was bombarded by the thought that there is too much suffering in this world to just accept things as they are.

But in time, I realized that any sort of opposing or resisting merely serves to energize that which you resist.

The only way to truly make good a situation that causes you suffering is to first allow it to be as it is. And by not resisting it anymore, the situation no longer has the power to make you suffer so much. When you are not suffering, you are more aware of potential actions which may improve the situation. You can work things out with less negative emotion driving your thinking.

Applying this expanded consciousness to any situation allows you to look at it from a significantly higher perspective. Soon you stop reacting to irritations in your life. Traffic jams became far less of a problem, rude people can be forgiven more easily, and stress is no longer so, er, stressful.

We can then apply this accepting attitude to the big stuff too. It works in the same way. Our Twin won’t talk to us – consciously allow them to be what they are now! You will find an infinite reserve of forgiveness you didn’t know you had, and in so-doing grow immeasurably.

We know just how hard it can be, but whatever your Twin Flame situation is, allow it to be as it is. Allow the light of your expanded awareness to shine upon it in order to heal it. Accept your Twin Flame experience as it arises, in all its technicolor tumult that is pushing you to grow – that is asking you to expand your consciousness. And remember the infinite Love from whence you came, before you fell into the trap of believing that the material world of separate forms is all there is.

 

 

Happy New Year, fellow Twins

For all of you bravely walking the Twin Flame path, know that you are getting closer to yourself with every step. Know that your efforts are not in vain and that your soul is rejoicing in your growth. Unconditional love is your shining goal. It is what your Twin is testing you to embrace. Most of all, you are being pushed to unconditionally love yourself. That is the grace found in each dark night.

So keep going, courageous friend, and rescue yourself back to LOVE. Rescue yourself so completely that you flourish! But how? It starts with simple joys.

Find the fun in each moment, and let it lead to the harmony you seek. Find the playfulness that was lost as a serious adult, and return yourself to lightness and fun. There, you will powerfully thrive! And help so many by lighting the way back to joy.

We Love You!

Spencer & Suzanne

My Soul’s Pledge

From the Archives:

I will not squander this love or delay it! I will grow adamantly, ardently towards it. No matter what. I will choose this jaw-dropping, heart-stopping LOVE! This unconditional love that fills my entire being with bliss.

I will not settle for less. I will not deny what is being felt or justify why I don’t need it. I will not put off the inevitable, but choose this LOVE above all else. And I choose it now! I will not wait.

Because I was born to know this love – this ultimate passion that grows with every breath. I was meant to be this love – no matter what humans and their human world deny. I will have it and hold it, and keep it for the rest of my life, into infinity. It is written in the stars.

I will persevere and not waver. And I will know that this was well worth the conventional price. Because this love is EVERYTHING, and I will not defy my destiny! But seize it and live it every day. And in that courageous living I will positively transform and find eternity amidst this human world. With my Beloved. My only one. The other half of my soul.

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We are so delighted to announce that our labor of Love is now complete! Our Book, True Love is Real, is the culmination of our experiences in successfully reuniting as a Twin Flame couple. Suzanne wrote these pages with the intention of offering the guidance and support that we ourselves craved as we negotiated the tumultuous, Twin Flame path.

Through sharing our sublime and brutal process on the blog, we have had the privilege of connecting with so many beautiful souls around the world who are also going through a Twin Flame relationship. The parallels in our shared experiences have been profoundly moving and inspiring. We are so grateful that you are here with us.

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Infinite Love,

Spencer and Suzanne

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Honor Yourself Always

One of the most important Twin Flame lessons is that exhibiting unconditional love for your Beloved does not mean dishonoring yourself. In fact, unconditional love requires honoring yourself always. When you insist upon this, you clear your limitations from love. You end excruciating patterns with your other half.

It starts with you. If your life is not honoring you at this very moment, then you alone must fix it instead of waiting until you’re with your Twin. If you are being compromised in any way in your relationship, you are to stand up for yourself and make changes. Because human rules still apply, even with the other half of your soul. Most of all, if your Twin is disrespecting you even for a moment, you are to set clear boundaries and walk away if necessary, no excuses.

But aren’t boundaries a form of separation? They are the circle around your own wholeness. This wholeness is required to unite with your other half. Because two wounded halves don’t make a whole. And until you respect yourself in your thoughts, words, deeds, your treatment from others, and the life you are creating, you will not be able to have a successful union.

Wholeness is the shining goal that your Twin Flame separation has been guiding you towards. And it’s all about your relationship with yourself. Because external relationships mirror your internal relationship back to you. When you establish healthy boundaries with anyone, you learn to establish boundaries with yourself. You solidify your internal self-respect, and this is reflected in your experiences.

You see, you only tolerate from others what you tolerate from yourself. And until you love yourself unconditionally, you can’t love anyone else this way too. You put conditions on love and doubt your worthiness of it.

This is such a crucial part of the Twin Flame paradigm, and it is the basis of all spirituality. Everything starts and ends with you, and your Twin Flame relationship is the ultimate reflection. It brings out how you’re not honoring yourself and makes it obvious for you to see. It pushes you to end your own internal suffering, thereby ending its reflection in your life.

This is played out in your Twin Flame challenges, which means that they may compromise you completely. As may your Twin! Until you finally say “Enough” and ask for more for yourself.

Learning to ask for more is a growth process that most Twins experience. Anything that you’ve been denying yourself will make itself clear in your Twin’s eyes. All the parts of you that you have not loved will come out for you to see. Your goal is to embrace yourself with so much forgiveness and love that you cherish every part of yourself from now on. Unconditionally. And you treat yourself like sacred royalty. Because that is who you are, courageous friend.

You are a brave leader who has come here to bring unconditional love to our earth. You are here to help at this pivotal time for humanity and make a dramatic impact. Your Twin Flame process is guiding you there, towards the most powerful reunion with your Twin. And your very soul is being put back together, one life-changing step at a time.

 

Your Love is Unconditional

Your Twin Flame challenges push you through things you wouldn’t have tolerated before. They do this so that you finally surrender to unconditional love. That is what frees you from your struggle and gets you to your Twin.

The incredible, romantic love that you feel guides you. It pulls you ever-forward through the process so that you keep going and don’t give up. And your Twin Flame situation is so challenging because that is what gets you to surrender to unconditional love.

Your other half pushes you to love them unconditionally, even under dire human circumstances. In fact, things have to get so bad with your Twin, to the point where you destroy all prior conditions you’ve put on your relationship. Because you can’t put your Twin into an old box of conditional love. They will never fit there.

You must embrace the unconditional with so much courage that you are lost. That is how you find yourself. That is how you become ready to have an entirely different kind of relationship – the only one that will work with your Twin. One that has no limitations and is elevated with infinite bliss.

To the ego, this process is extremely scary. It doesn’t help that your Twin plays their role perfectly. They do whatever it takes until you lose your judgments and choose all-forgiving, all-accepting love.

Your Twin presents you with red flags and deal breakers until you start to feel intense judgment towards them. In fact, everything your Twin does wrong gets almost ludicrous and completely unacceptable. After much agony and emotional unrest, you reach your breaking point. You finally realize the only thing that will rescue you is forgiveness and love, and you accept your Twin at last. In so doing, you finally accept yourself.

On the other side, you feel total, unconditional love for all. This is your Twin Flame goal. Because as a Twin, you are on a path of acceptance. You are here to accept everyone and everything and trust the plan of your reunion. When you do, things fall into place perfectly. When you have faith in your Twin Flame process, your universe positively blooms! We know because we are experiencing this first hand.

At the end, you will say, “Thank you, my beautiful, perfect Twin! You helped me to shed the limitations that kept me down all my life.” You will be ready to create with love instead of fear. And you will thrive like you’ve never known before.

You are shining and empowered, and flourishing in ultimate love. And you can make the life of your dreams with your achingly gorgeous Beloved.

My Love

From the Archives:

I will never let go of you. Ever. Even if my humanness struggles. Even if I can’t stand the intensity of our love. I can never deny our connection, because it is forever.

If I tell you that I can’t do this relationship, I don’t mean it. If I decide to run, I already know that I can never truly run away from you. Because you are my other half. You are me, and I am you. And if I run, I am only running away from myself.

So be patient with me. Carry our love, and let it lead you to be stronger. Let it show you how to become whole in yourself. I cannot do this for you. But our love can.

Even when we are apart, I am with you. Do you see, My Love? We planned to be apart so that we could grow. It is only growth that lies between us. And we are being guided perfectly by our soul.

Even when it looks like I don’t love you, I am simply pushing you to become empowered. I love you so much that I agreed to be your greatest challenge. So that you would assert yourself. So that you would become so strong that you don’t need me to rescue you. That is how much I love you.

So grow swiftly, my Love! And rescue yourself from everything that puts you down. Shed every last bit of human conditioning. Free yourself, and go for your dreams! Enact your passionate purpose on this earth. Do what brings you joy. Treat yourself with so much honor and kindness. Love yourself completely. Just as I do in my heart. I will see you on the other side of growth.

This is what will bring us together. And rest assured, we will make it. Because we are already together in the higher realms.

I am in your heart always. I am in your very being, and my breath is your breath. Your steps are my steps. We are the same, and I love you eternally, beyond the primeval stars.

Suzanne & Spencer

Readying for Bliss

Twin Flame love feels more blissful than you can hold. It wakes you up to pure joy and gives you back yourself. But this bliss also highlights what’s been keeping you from it. It intensifies your limitations so that you finally heal them. So that you are ready to permanently live in immense and ever-joyful love.

Your Twin Flame relationship is acclimating you to bliss. It is challenging you to stop blocking yourself from it. And at the core of this clearing is a regaining of self-worth. You are removing what’s in the way of seeing how divinely perfect you are. And how worthy you are of total, ecstatic joy.

That is why your Twin Flame relationship is a process. It is a series of monumental challenges that ask for courageous steps. And through these steps, you are pushed to finally love yourself. Because self-love is vital for your Twin Flame union. For until you love yourself, you won’t be able to stand the ecstasy of permanently joining with your Twin. In fact, such bliss will feel downright unbearable.

Until you love yourself, you won’t be able to sit next to your Twin for long. You will start to squirm and ask, “Who me? I can’t possibly deserve this joy!” You will come up with several reasons why you don’t, and your limitations will be laid bare. And this will feel so intense and unjustly cruel – though the purpose is to finally heal.

Such discomfort can feel impossible. It might tempt you to blame your Twin or deny your love. It might spur you to make excuses, cling to your old life, and run for the nearest door – run from what cries out to be loved in yourself.

Indeed, the emotions that your Twin triggers can feel nightmarish. And you might think that it’s all their fault. Your Twin’s behavior might even back this up! But they are giving you the opportunity for ultimate healing. Your Twin is helping you to shed your own feelings of unworthiness until you find yourself again. For only then can you bask in the balmy acceptance of unconditional love. Only then can you stand your gorgeous relationship and bathe in its sacred bliss.

Imagine a partnership with zero insecurity. Imagine a life where you feel completely worthy of the greatest love at every moment of the day – something you may not have realized was challenging! Imagine what it’s like to rejoin with your Twin and feel total ecstasy. This is what you are being prepared for. And it is exponential joy. We know because it has happened to us.

For all of you struggling to be with your other half, what you seek is more alive than anything you’ve ever known, and you are being guided to have it again. Because expansive bliss is your true essence and what you are made of. Your human self simply forgot this for a time. Your Twin is here to remind you.

You are being readied for what all humans want – awe-inspiring, gorgeous, romantic love. The kind you’ve always known was real in your heart. The kind you will fully know when you fully love yourself. For then you will resonate with your sacred union and realize ultimate bliss. You will flourish in your immaculate partnership with your utterly perfect other half.

Suzanne & Spencer

 

Growth is Mandatory

by Spencer

The Twin Flame experience is the ultimate relationship. It is the purest, highest, and final relationship of love that we get to experience in human form. No wonder so many curious and conscious beings yearn for it. But hold on, dear friends! The Twin Flame deal is no picnic. Believe me. It is the most accelerated, fast-track, and ultra-intense clearing program available.

I learned this first-hand. I thought that I had cleared much of my “stuff” and brought my shadow side into the light. Indeed, I must have cleared a great deal to have found my Twin. But once we met, this process kicked into overdrive. My Beloved and I set about showing each other every shadowy, ego-driven peccadillo that had ever held us back!

This is tough for a human (especially of the male persuasion 😉 to face every single “error” they have ever made in life. It is far easier to blame the one that held up a sublime, all-seeing mirror, turn away and run for the hills. But naturally, one cannot escape one’s own shadow. And the harder you run, the harder the shadow follows, gathering power with every step.

There comes a point in every Twin Flame relationship where both protagonists wish they had not met their Twin. Such is the intensity of healing that such a union instigates. Lifetimes of pain are laid bare before unblinking eyes. But this is what we asked for. Our soul planned this sublime clean-up operation for the path of soul-reunion.

In short, we are being led to begin the journey home. We are crusaders who signed up to split into two and be lost, and find a way home in the dark!

To turn and face our dark sides is the point at which we begin to turn for home. We allow our emotions to arise and pass without the interference of labels and opinion. We let them be as they are. We do not need to understand them or know the correct psychological condition to which they have been assigned. We must simply allow them to be and have the courage to trust that all consciously brought into the light of loving awareness can be healed.

The Twin Flame relationship turns this process up to 11 and pushes each Twin to their limit, until they snap and scream, ‘I hate this! I don’t want to be here anymore!’ And then the miracle happens. We suddenly feel light and energised. We are Parsifal who has faced his dark night of the soul with courage and found the Holy Grail.

Each time that Twin Flames hit rock-bottom, they rise up, Phoenix-like, from the ashes of their own fears. The first time this happens you think: ‘That’s it! I’ve cleared the pain; I am no longer strapped to suffering!’ Till the next time. Oh be advised dear friends, your soul knows exactly how much you can take at any moment! You will be pushed just beyond your limit, again and again, until you can feel the utter truth in saying “I Love You” to yourself. That means truly loving your ego, your shadow, and, of course, your beautiful Twin for showing you how much you failed to love yourself all these years. Therein lies salvation.

The Twin Flame experience is a journey of love, bringing you back yourself. Welcome home, dear friend. We’ve been expecting you.

Deathbed Reckoning

If you are lucky enough to have found your other half on earth, then deep down you know with complete certainty that this is the only partner for you. You know that the magnitude of your love must be honored, no matter what that means in human terms. And you also know that if you don’t honor this love, you will regret it immensely. You will endure the most painful reckoning on your deathbed.

Because your soul cries out to be with your other half. Nothing can take this longing away. Not even the tremendous obstacles you face in order to be together. And it turns out that these obstacles are designed to help you unite.

Your Twin Flame challenges are designed to help you love yourself unconditionally. This makes you whole and able to permanently unite with your Twin. This is what every difficulty between you is challenging you to accomplish. And this is what your incredible longing is guiding you towards. You are being asked to feel the same life-changing, unconditional love that you feel for your Twin, for yourself.

Your Twin Flame challenges are breaking down the ways you have not loved yourself. They are obliterating your old methods of coping, your human conditioning, and your ego. Once you are truly free from these forms of control, you will remember the immaculate perfection you’ve always been. You will finally, fully embrace self-love.

And you will become utterly empowered. This is what true, divine power is – not chasing goals to make your ego feel better, not looking outside of yourself – even to your Twin! But awesome, full-body LOVE that guides you fearlessly towards JOY. This brings a whole new kind of certainty and confidence to your life. You become so strong with love, from the inside out, that you flourish, unbridled. You fulfill your life’s purpose out loud!

The infinite love that you feel for your Twin is calling you to do this. It is calling you to love yourself so that you can shine. This means that you will have to face the ways you aren’t loving yourself head on. These things cannot hide any more. Not even in your beautiful relationship.

Such growth cannot be avoided. It will keep calling you with longing and separation – with the ecstasy of joining and the agony of arguments, until you face what begs to heal within. Your Twin Flame relationship will push you to stop living for others and start living for yourself. It will constantly urge you to honor yourself with unconditional love.

You don’t want to end up on your deathbed having missed this most golden of all opportunities. You don’t want to go back to your old ways, no matter how comforting they have been. Because you came here to do this, and in so doing, help humanity.

It is time to go for what you really, deep-down want – the love that all people dream of: the infinite bliss that you share with your other half. And the full realization that it comes from within you. It shines from the inside out.