Overcoming Painful Repetition

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A crucial method of healing has recently come to light for us, and it involves how we humans behave in order to protect ourselves. We recreate what we’ve done in the past in order to prove that how we originally handled things was right. We do this to prove that we are lovable and valuable instead of how the experience made us feel—unlovable and not valuable. And we do this until we become strong with self-worth.

We recreate painful experiences until we truly get that we are cherished in the universe and that we are unconditionally loved. 

This is why you might leave a job or relationship and then find yourself repeating similar painful experiences in a new job or new relationship. This is why you might repeat the same painful interactions with your Beloved over and over again. You are trying to justify your worth, your integrity, and your abilities one more time, through a situation that you are familiar with. But if you are stuck in the need to justify anything, you are stuck in the painful past. And you are likely to repeat it. 

So how do you stop repeating painful experiences? Start by taking a good hard look at what those experiences have taught you. Then take those lessons to heart. For example, if you felt disrespected in a prior relationship, left that relationship, and then found a new relationship with the same dynamic of disrespect, you are trying to justify that you were right to leave then and now. You are trying to assert all over again that you deserve respect. The lesson is to give yourself respect right now and to insist upon it in all of your interactions without needing to repeat the past.

Once you take the lesson to heart, you don’t need the same experience to teach you that lesson any longer. You are free to move on to higher experiences.

So ask yourself, what painful situations have I repeated in my life, and what have they been trying to teach me? 

As you gain awareness of repetition in your relationships, you will see that some people repeat being hurtful to others. Why? To justify that they were right in being hurtful the first time around! What’s worse, such people shift the blame to the person whom they hurt. They do not have the gift of self-awareness (yet) which is the key to healing yourself.

Fortunately, there is always healing and wisdom to be gained on the other side of your experiences—once you stop repeating them. And again, once you let self-respect sink in, you are able to move on to new experiences. You just don’t resonate any longer with past patterns and can’t go anywhere near disrespect. 

But if you have struggled with self-respect in the past (and who hasn’t?!) how do you truly grasp and embody it now? You do so by facing yourself head on in the mirror. You take a brave look into all the dark corners of your humanness, and you admit why you do what you do. You look at how you judge yourself inside, and you heal that judgment with self-love. I explain this healing process in my guide, “You Are Infinitely Loved.” 

Please know that you don’t have to prove a thing to anyone on this planet, most especially to yourself. Repeat after us: you are perfect just the way you are right now. You have never done anything truly wrong from the larger perspective of creation. You have always done the best you could with all that you were handling. You don’t need to justify that you were right in the past because you actually really were. Let this feeling of being fully accepted sink in, and then realize that you don’t have to prove yourself ever again. You can go forward with new uplifting experiences.

Then something sublime happens. You don’t need anyone else to prove themselves to you either. And you don’t need your Beloved to prove their love because it has always already been there.

 

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Poem to my Twin Flame, before I knew what a Twin Flame was!

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From the Archives:

Goddess is way too tame a term

To point toward the beauty for whom I yearn.

Helen herself was too plain

To hold a candle to my eternal flame.

She! She is my Earth, my Moon, my Sun.

Drowning in her ocean eyes, life has begun.

 

 

Our Rapid Evolution: Current Process

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As you read this, humanity is undergoing a seemingly hidden, yet blatantly obvious spiritual evolution. This evolution involves finalizing our core healing. We are finishing out processing old traumas and judgments so that we can become unlimited and unconditionally loving. This means that you are personally evolving by processing your own past experiences of pain. You are healing your deepest traumas and subsequent judgments—all the pain that has held you back, until nothing can hold you back any more.

The key to your healing process is to understand that you came to this life to overcome experiences that severely limited you exactly so that you could become completely unlimited. You were born to become responsibly powerful and fully loving—unconditionally so that you are infinitely free. That is the process you are currently going through.

You are freeing yourself from limitation so that you can know its opposite through and through, at the deepest soul-experience level. You are rescuing yourself from your human conditioning (something I explain in detail in my book, Love is Free) so that you will never be put down again. Human conditioning is the systematic way that we have all been trained to put ourselves and others down through unworthiness, and it lies at the bottom of our most painful ordeals.

For example, right now I am overcoming the traumatic experience of feeling ostracized and undervalued in my past—dramatically and repeatedly so (I’m sure you can relate!). My Twin Flame, Spencer—the other half of my split soul, shares this healing with me from his own past, and by acknowledging the truth that we have experienced our deep pain, we fully see our human conditioning. We fully see how it has pushed us to limit ourselves in life in so many ways. By facing our human pain, we are able to see its lesson—to stop limiting ourselves. We are able to overcome this pain and realize its opposite—that we unconditionally belong in an eternally loving universe as sacred aspects of GodSource. We can never truly be ostracized or undervalued because we are always one with the holiness of everyone and everything. We always have been. 

One crucial aid to overcoming trauma is acceptance. Acceptance means that we let go of trying to blame others for our pain and instead simply focus on our own. Of course, it’s understandably easy to get paralyzed by what others have done to you, especially when no purpose for such cruelty seems apparent. But feeling acceptance means that you recognize with full compassion that all of us came here to overcome for a great purpose—to fully embody unlimited, unconditional love from the inside out—and through our pain we have been helping each other to do this. We are all one in beneficent LOVE after all.

Recently, I experienced a very personal breakthrough involving acceptance, after which I was able to heal pain from two key relationships. I had outgrown these relationships several years ago when I grew spiritually in my life, yet I had always hoped we would meet in mutual understanding on the other side of change. In fact, I assumed these people wanted healing and progress forward in our relationship with the same zealous optimism that I did. They did not. And that’s what I was able to finally see and accept. They wanted to remain as things had been and keep the dynamic we had known—especially in its fractured state, and in realizing this I was able to let my rosy expectations go. I was able to let these beautiful people go from what I wanted from them and simply heal on my own. With this understanding, my healing was instantaneous. What’s more, I stopped interfering in their healing process, and I was able to love them as I hadn’t been before.

Healing pain means ending the fight over how you think people should be and letting the chips fall where they may. This is true surrender of control, and once you let go in this way—once you feel a full sense of loss, then FREEDOM, then PEACE, you open yourself up to receive. I speak from experience. Last month, I surrendered all control over one gigantic and painfully unattainable dream. I let it go completely and even threw out all papers related to it. A few days later, I received a call that made my dream come true.

I know your dreams will come true too—every last precious one of them. I know you will overcome your darkest trials and seize their opposite—your dearest wishes come to glorious fruition. I know you will realize your magnificent brilliance and your all-accepting LOVE—your undying desire for harmony for all. Just keep going through your courageous process. We will rejoice together at the after-party.

We Are Ascending

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Right now, massive waves of light are reaching planet earth and changing the human experience forever. The light of higher consciousness is flooding our world, waking us from our brutal human conditioning and calling us to spiritual love. Love that is infinite, all-accepting and eternally generous. Love that is who we really are. And deep down in our souls, we feel a pressing urgency to get back to it. We know it is time to Ascend.

Spiritual love is calling us away from the suffering we have known. It is calling us back to ourselves. This is the same epic love that the Beloved awakens, and if you are a Twin Flame, you know exactly what it feels like. Intimately.

You know how otherworldly and all-powerful love really is, and how unbearable it feels when it’s elusive. You know love and its full-body longing, and you know the euphoria of etheric merging. Indeed, the desire to be one with the Beloved is overpowering. The need to unite and never part again is excruciatingly sweet and miserable. And this desire is the same as the need to get back to spiritual love. It is the same longing to get back ourselves and to never let go again, because love is where we come from. We just forgot that for a little while.

We were lost and blind, searching without comprehension, kept apart and made to wait FOREVER. But somewhere within, we know that we are not meek, helpless humans. We are higher beings who are incredibly powerful and unlimited. We are expansive creators who come from the most loving reality that is far more real than this human plane. And finally, light is bombarding the darkness and we are remembering this.

Finally, light is awakening love within us and healing everything in the way of union—union with the Beloved, union with our precious selves. Union with everyone and everything in our storied past and all the realms of existence. We are becoming whole, never to be fractured again. Never to suffer alone in separation. We are bringing home the long-lost parts of ourselves and taking care of them—no more shunning, shaming, or hiding. No more suffering over what we can’t have because we already are everything, and this is obvious when we embody spiritual love.

Unifying, all-healing, ever-glorious love. Let us simply feel it and know this is what we seek. This is what we cried out for in the terrible dark night. Love is the Beloved we yearn for. Love is what opens us wider with awareness, ’til we see that we are what we seek.

Twin Flames understand this to the core, and we are here to lead the spiritual process of union. We are here to heal humanity, one brave partner at a time, one magic love story at a time—yes, we are living out the ultimate legend. And tho’ conditioning runs deep, and tho’ our job has been horribly rough, love is unstoppable and it is fiercely victorious—no matter the separation we have endured. For we are rising to the highest human experience. Yes we are Ascending, at long last, as you read this.

 

The Pain of Separation

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If there was one wish my beloved Suzanne and I could be granted, we would wish for our dear TwinFlame friends to be free of their pain—the pain of separation.

However, from a spiritual growth perspective, one knows that this pain is a great gift; this pain drives us to seek oneness within ourselves, for only that can assuage the intense torment of separation.

To seek oneness with another, especially your Twin, is what this pain seams to be guiding you towards. Yet this longing actually reinforces the greatest truth that we forgot so completely, so long ago. And this truth is the great liberator.

All human suffering is born of the fact that we believe we are separate; and moreover, only something ‘other’ than us, something outside, can heal us. For Twin Flames, this means that we yearn for union so fervently because we believe that it will make us whole. We believe that reunion will heal us.

The illusion is certainly convincing enough. Clearly our bodies are separate forms, aren’t they? Well not really, and science now understands this. The fact is—and it is a demonstrable fact—that there are no boundaries between bodies and between forms. We are all literally interconnected at the quantum level. Finally, science and spirituality agree on something! So in the highest states of consciousness, we are all one. Like the Dalai Lama and his favorite hotdog, we are one with everything.

So we can begin to conceive that the Twin we yearn for so terribly is in fact already part of us, is already within us, and only a state of consciousness keeps us in a state of tormenting illusion. And if we seek out the highest path, the path of self-mastery and self-love, then we can gently break open this illusion. We can allow the truth of Divine Love to engulf our being, and then we know that we are already in union in a higher dimension—a dimension we cannot perceive yet with our present state of consciousness.

But how can we even begin to dispel such a unilaterally irresistible illusion of separation?

We begin by learning to redirect the love we have for our Twin inward upon ourselves. We meditate on the truth that we are all one in the higher dimensions, and we fully embody this as solid belief. And soon, that same self-love is available for all of creation down here in the lower density. We are all elevated towards unconditional love—the undying love of Twin Flames.

The role of the Twin Flame is to intensify our sense of separation and the feeling of incompleteness, to the point where we just can’t take it anymore. We lose our minds in the madness, literally, and then stop letting our minds rule. We fall to our knees and open our hearts to the truth that we forgot—that we have always been completely whole. We simply forgot who we were for a little while.

Infinite Love,

Spencer

 

 

What it means to Love

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I am going share the most vital lesson I have learned from my Twin Flame experience. In fact, all spiritual lessons lead ultimately to one incredibly simple truth, and this truth can be described in an infinite number of ways, yet can be summed up in a single word: that word is, of course, LOVE.

All we have to ‘do’ is Love. All we need is Love. It is so simple that our frail human minds melt down at the lack of complexity.

The mind needs to feed on complexity (problems) in order to perpetuate its hold over us as the most “intelligent” component of our experience. We complicate things and limit them completely. Suzanne’s Book, Love is Free, delves into this self imposed exile that we place upon ourselves when we limit Love by making it conditional. We all know in our hearts that true Love is unconditional and radiates its light equally on all creation, just as the rays of the sun do.

But it is nigh on impossible for us to truly Love as Eternity Loves—we are simply so entrenched and invested in duality that we are bound to limit Love to that which we judge deserves it most. Yet we must try to Love unconditionally.

Most of us have heard that only purest Love has no opposite, and therefore, transcends duality. Duality is the essence of the illusion that we all labour under. Duality forces us to constantly decide between two opposites. It is like tossing a coin. We judge each element of experience and choose to put our attention on one side of the coin over the other, knowing that heads is not tails and vice versa. Buddhists focus on that which something sacred is not, in order to keep from limiting the conception by a dualistic definition. They describe something sacred as the absence of something—i.e. Enlightenment is the absence of suffering. They understand that Enlightenment (Love) is sacred and not a defined thing.

All things in duality have an opposite so that our minds can ‘know’ what it is. Eternity cannot be known by the mind for it has no opposite; it does not exist because, to exist, it must have something to ‘stand out’ against. Space does not exist until you have at least two points of reference—the gap between the two points we call space. Ask yourself what was there before the second point of reference was created. Nothing, no thing.

At this point, one’s minds begins to give up, for the mind is born of duality. The mind needs twin points of reference. This is how Twin Flames in essence operate. In order to grasp that which lies beyond duality, we need to become aware of our awareness. It is a blessing indeed that we can be aware that we are aware, and that there is more to us than the mind. If we are to stop perpetually suffering, we must transcend the thinking mind that limits us so horribly.

As Twin Flames, we endure the very worst kind of suffering: the yearning that pulls at our hearts so intensely that we feel we might die with longing. But suffering is only there to jolt us out of the illusion of duality, and what could express duality more completely than the need for union with our opposite form?

So take heart, fellow Twins. This is the most concentrated experience there is, and it is there to wake us up from our dream of duality because we are ready! We know that we are ‘ready’ because we are having the experience.

Our challenge is to transcend the greatest illusion; to know that we are only separated from our Twin by a misconception. Know this, dearest friends—you are not and were never separated as Twin Flames. You agreed as whole beings to create an illusory experience of splitting into two so that you could find your way back to wholeness with a more complete understanding of what it means to be whole.

You journeyed into pain so that you could learn to transcend it and appreciate what it is to Love Unconditionally. You are here to Love your Twin Flame unconditionally, and allow them be exactly as they are. You will then Love as Eternity Loves, and the illusion of separation will cease to cause you pain, for you will KNOW the truth—you will know Love. It is a simple as that.

 

 

 

Twin Flames are Here to Serve

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If you are feeling intense, otherworldly love for your Beloved and cannot be with them, hear our heartfelt words. In fact, if you want to give up on your Beloved entirely, this clarion call applies to you too:

All that you have to do right now is simply feel the infinite love that your Beloved has inspired in you, and recognize what a Godsend this love is—in and of itself. Recognize that your Beloved helped you to open your heart wider than you ever thought possible so that divine love could pour through you and into your life, allowing dramatic healing and growth.

This love changed everything for you. And this love is here to change the earth too. For you are here to help transform this place by bringing love here. You are here to serve.

Your brave assignment is to bring unconditional love to this tired human experience. This is what creates our long-awaited heaven on earth. You are here to alchemize this dense world from lead into purest gold, through total unconditional love—the love that your Beloved has inspired. The love that you truly are.

What a purpose you have, courageous soul! So seize your purpose, and bring this love into reality, and anchor it securely on the earth. Bring a higher experience to this realm and help us to Ascend.

Now we know that Twin Flame challenges can make everything seem tragic, but you must overcome limited thinking. Don’t limit the angelic love that you feel with human corruption! Don’t make this all-powerful love conditional and possessive, thus wrecking transformation!

And get this. Your separation from your beloved actually intensifies your feelings of love, so use this opportunity to get your work done! Bring the love that we need for transformation—the transformation that precedes harmonious union and Eden.

Go forth, Beloved soul, and be brave with unconditional love. Be bold with love even in the face of the ridiculous. Be powerful even in the grips of rejection. All you have to do is feel love. Just feel it. Feel the love that is you—that is your Beloved too. For love is everyone, and we are remembering it two by two.

S&S