The Pain of Separation

If there was one wish my beloved Suzanne and I could be granted, we would wish for our dear TwinFlame friends to be free of their pain—the pain of separation.

However, from a spiritual growth perspective, one knows that this pain is a great gift; this pain drives us to seek oneness within ourselves, for only that can assuage the intense torment of separation.

To seek oneness with another, especially your Twin, is what this pain seams to be guiding you towards. Yet this longing actually reinforces the greatest truth that we forgot so completely, so long ago. And this truth is the great liberator.

All human suffering is born of the fact that we believe we are separate; and moreover, only something ‘other’ than us, something outside, can heal us. For Twin Flames, this means that we yearn for union so fervently because we believe that it will make us whole. We believe that reunion will heal us.

The illusion is certainly convincing enough. Clearly our bodies are separate forms, aren’t they? Well not really, and science now understands this. The fact is—and it is a demonstrable fact—that there are no boundaries between bodies and between forms. We are all literally interconnected at the quantum level. Finally, science and spirituality agree on something! So in the highest states of consciousness, we are all one. Like the Dalai Lama and his favorite hotdog, we are one with everything.

So we can begin to conceive that the Twin we yearn for so terribly is in fact already part of us, is already within us, and only a state of consciousness keeps us in a state of tormenting illusion. And if we seek out the highest path, the path of self-mastery and self-love, then we can gently break open this illusion. We can allow the truth of Divine Love to engulf our being, and then we know that we are already in union in a higher dimension—a dimension we cannot perceive yet with our present state of consciousness.

But how can we even begin to dispel such a unilaterally irresistible illusion of separation?

We begin by learning to redirect the love we have for our Twin inward upon ourselves. We meditate on the truth that we are all one in the higher dimensions, and we fully embody this as solid belief. And soon, that same self-love is available for all of creation down here in the lower density. We are all elevated towards unconditional love—the undying love of Twin Flames.

The role of the Twin Flame is to intensify our sense of separation and the feeling of incompleteness, to the point where we just can’t take it anymore. We lose our minds in the madness, literally, and then stop letting our minds rule. We fall to our knees and open our hearts to the truth that we forgot—that we have always been completely whole. We simply forgot who we were for a little while.

Infinite Love,

Spencer

 

 

What it means to Love

I am going share the most vital lesson I have learned from my Twin Flame experience. In fact, all spiritual lessons lead ultimately to one incredibly simple truth, and this truth can be described in an infinite number of ways, yet can be summed up in a single word: that word is, of course, LOVE.

All we have to ‘do’ is Love. All we need is Love. It is so simple that our frail human minds melt down at the lack of complexity.

The mind needs to feed on complexity (problems) in order to perpetuate its hold over us as the most “intelligent” component of our experience. We complicate things and limit them completely. Suzanne’s Book, Love is Free, delves into this self imposed exile that we place upon ourselves when we limit Love by making it conditional. We all know in our hearts that true Love is unconditional and radiates its light equally on all creation, just as the rays of the sun do.

But it is nigh on impossible for us to truly Love as Eternity Loves—we are simply so entrenched and invested in duality that we are bound to limit Love to that which we judge deserves it most. Yet we must try to Love unconditionally.

Most of us have heard that only purest Love has no opposite, and therefore, transcends duality. Duality is the essence of the illusion that we all labour under. Duality forces us to constantly decide between two opposites. It is like tossing a coin. We judge each element of experience and choose to put our attention on one side of the coin over the other, knowing that heads is not tails and vice versa. Buddhists focus on that which something sacred is not, in order to keep from limiting the conception by a dualistic definition. They describe something sacred as the absence of something—i.e. Enlightenment is the absence of suffering. They understand that Enlightenment (Love) is sacred and not a defined thing.

All things in duality have an opposite so that our minds can ‘know’ what it is. Eternity cannot be known by the mind for it has no opposite; it does not exist because, to exist, it must have something to ‘stand out’ against. Space does not exist until you have at least two points of reference—the gap between the two points we call space. Ask yourself what was there before the second point of reference was created. Nothing, no thing.

At this point, one’s minds begins to give up, for the mind is born of duality. The mind needs twin points of reference. This is how Twin Flames in essence operate. In order to grasp that which lies beyond duality, we need to become aware of our awareness. It is a blessing indeed that we can be aware that we are aware, and that there is more to us than the mind. If we are to stop perpetually suffering, we must transcend the thinking mind that limits us so horribly.

As Twin Flames, we endure the very worst kind of suffering: the yearning that pulls at our hearts so intensely that we feel we might die with longing. But suffering is only there to jolt us out of the illusion of duality, and what could express duality more completely than the need for union with our opposite form?

So take heart, fellow Twins. This is the most concentrated experience there is, and it is there to wake us up from our dream of duality because we are ready! We know that we are ‘ready’ because we are having the experience.

Our challenge is to transcend the greatest illusion; to know that we are only separated from our Twin by a misconception. Know this, dearest friends—you are not and were never separated as Twin Flames. You agreed as whole beings to create an illusory experience of splitting into two so that you could find your way back to wholeness with a more complete understanding of what it means to be whole.

You journeyed into pain so that you could learn to transcend it and appreciate what it is to Love Unconditionally. You are here to Love your Twin Flame unconditionally, and allow them be exactly as they are. You will then Love as Eternity Loves, and the illusion of separation will cease to cause you pain, for you will KNOW the truth—you will know Love. It is a simple as that.

 

 

 

2018: Twin Flames… Ascension… it’s all getting personal!

I for one am happy to see the end of 2017. It has been a tumultuous year for humanity – a year of intense growth as we have delved ever deeper into the darkest recesses of our beings – just when we thought we must already be near the bottom! Undoubtedly, we have been clearing the last vestiges of unconsciousness that hold us back from embracing our light.

I do not wish to sound like I am ungrateful for the experience; I am thankful for the ever-increasing awareness that becomes obvious. And the lesson is clear—never has the need been greater for self-mastery; if one desires for humanity to ascend, then one must make it happen personally. Yes, it’s personal.

If we react negatively, we are playing into the hands of negative forces that would have us sink into a mire of condemnation and anger, locking us into the downward spiral. More and more of us are recognizing that we must master our powerful emotions by choosing Love over fear. This is becoming increasingly self-evident.

Never has the need been greater for each of us to wake up and recognize that we must raise our level of consciousness so that we make the necessary evolutionary leap. As world events spiral towards increasing extremity and division, we are being invited to choose the higher path so that we are co-creators of the new reality.

It is clear that 2018 is going to be the year where we see a major shift—it feels like the world is having a nervous breakdown! For me personally, things have gotten so acutely terrifying that I am being forced to make the highest possible choice, and I am certain that many of you are feeling the same pressure. I have never before seen so clearly that if I choose to react to and condemn world events, I will create misery both inwardly and outwardly. I can also see that if I remain in as neutral a place as I can, there is an immense—actually infinite, reservoir of Love and Light available to me. This propels me out of reactivity and judgement, upwards towards a state of being where I lovingly laugh at the madness of the world as I would the ridiculous antics of a young child.

In my personal world, I have come to a momentous decision that induces a kind of anxious joy. This past year, everything from politics to the weather became increasingly chaotic, and so did my business life. I was forced to make that perennial choice: fear or Love? Would I continue to strangle my integrity by attempting to maintain an illusory veil of security—all by giving my energy to an organization that I would not do business with myself? Or would I find a higher path in serving others?

Suzanne and I have been quiet on TwinFlameHelp for a while, as we have both been working hard to run our earthly lives. Now, we have decided that we must, as harmoniously united Twin Flames (hallelujah!) rededicate our lives to service.

The word service has become sullied by man’s enslavement of his own kind (I say ‘man’ in this instance deliberately, for seldom have women consciously enslaved others) but I do not wish to energize that notion of service. The idea of ‘service to others’ reminds me of a sense of compassion and the transcending of ego; it is this I choose to focus on.

I intend for my service to take the form of sharing the multifarious lessons I have learned on my path that ultimately led me to a tranquil and achingly beautiful place—my Twin Flame relationship with Suzanne—in the midst of an increasingly chaotic world. I will be sharing all that I can from the male perspective. I will be working on a book for you and producing a series of teachings to inspire and elevate.

Watch this space!

Infinite Love,

Spencer