LOVE Disarms All Sabotage

It can be helpful to be aware that Twin Flames have been sabotaged in order to prevent union and Ascension. We Twins don’t need to judge this fact because that hurts us even further, but rather, we can use our infinite spiritual love to rise above it. That is why it is imperative that all of us on the Twin Flame path become aware of the ways we have been sabotaged and take charge of ourselves with powerful LOVE. 

One of the specific ways that Twin Flames have been sabotaged is through our human conditioning. This conditioning affects us most directly because Twin Flame partners act as exact mirrors for each other, and as such, we repeatedly trigger trauma in one another. This repeated triggering no longer serves growth and healing purposes, but rather, keeps us trapped in loops of extreme emotional suffering. Even Twin Flame couples like ourselves who unite permanently in the physical after facing innumerable challenges, can get caught in these loops—we sure have! And this often keeps us from joining fully together in harmony and purpose. We end up in recovery mode a lot of the time. Our earnest, spiritual efforts get sabotaged just when we finally feel safe. We endure a rollercoaster ride of disastrous fights followed by blessed forgiveness, as we pick ourselves back up and start the process all over again. 

This devastating cycle keeps Twin Flame couples in survival mode and thwarts focus on higher purpose, sabotaging it on a regular basis. That is why not being with your Twin Flame in the physical can often be a form of self-preservation that allows you to actually accomplish your spiritual work in peace. Until now, that is. We do feel that the time of Twin Flame sabotage is ending and that, due to all of our concerted efforts, the divine plan is unfolding more easily now. But, in the mean time, being aware of sabotage and especially self-sabotage helps to free all of us from it. Let’s look more closely at what we’ve found. 

Each person in a Twin Flame couple will have experienced some form of trauma in their lives because all humans have, but in many cases, one Twin will have endured extreme circumstances in youth. This Twin is often the one who carries the predominant masculine energy in the Twin Flame couple, who also suffers male conditioning. This male conditioning counters Divine Masculine attributes and suppresses the Divine Feminine—a suppression which serves darkness. This Twin may have suffered severe and repeated trauma in childhood via parents and schools, and may have witnessed violent or extreme emotional episodes. They may have lived through incredible instability that is so brutal it is hard to understand. This Twin is left feeling utterly desolated, abandoned, and completely alone. They are always on alert for more trauma to unfold and are thrust permanently into a state of abject survival, a state which never leaves them. This Twin feels overwhelmingly challenged in adulthood and often experiences addiction. They may seem self-absorbed and distracted because they have been so traumatized. They cannot fulfill their higher purpose because they can barely survive the human experience.  

When a Twin Flame couple meets in the physical, as pre-arranged through divine timing, they act as direct mirrors for each other. They experience a soul-reunion closeness wherein the greatest love of all time comes alive, but they also share everything else with each other too, including trauma. Thus, the severely traumatized Twin quickly and unknowingly transfers their trauma onto their Other Half. Their Other Half is often the one who carries predominant feminine energy for the couple and has suffered female conditioning that counters Divine Feminine attributes and suppresses her. She tries to welcome her perfect partner with unconditional love but the traumatized Twin treats her in a manner that projects his trauma onto her and recreates it. Female wounding is triggered, and the Other Half is left feeling utterly desolated, abandoned and completely alone. She is left feeling exactly like her Twin, which is profound, and this experience often obliterates all chances for permanent union or creates cycles of abuse that recreate trauma. This abuse often mirrors the age old, low-dimensional behavior that patriarchal human men have inflicted upon females. 

So while in reality, both Twins are enlightened souls of higher LIGHT and LOVE who are striving ardently to be spiritual human beings, they perpetuate human stories of heartbreak and division. They long to be together and yet they end up destroying each other, thus sabotaging their higher purpose of union and Ascension.  

The idea of sabotaging Twin Flames by getting them to take each other down all by themselves is pretty dark, but so is all of the fighting that we humans have experienced on earth. Fighting in its many forms has always kept us from seeing the bigger picture of unity that we come from. It has always divided us and sabotaged our inherent spiritual unity. It is important to note here that all darkness is being purged on our planet right now which is making matters accelerate to the extreme. 

Of course, Twins who persevere past fighting learn to embody unconditional love, and this helps tremendously with Ascension. Twin Flames also process trauma for the collective which helps all of us to heal lifetimes of trauma. But there comes a point where healing ends and cycles of abuse begin, and this actually sabotages Ascension efforts. Trauma tends to feed upon itself, and Twins can easily drown each other in it, so they have to free themselves from destructive patterns which lower their energy and steal their power. Twins need to stop being empathic, even with their Other Half, and focus on being empowered.   

It is imperative that Twin Flames especially become aware of their own energy, thoughts, and behaviors and take charge of their beings with total LOVE. Yes, love is always the solution, just like the love wherein our epic love stories began. For when love prevails in the face of yet another impossible “dark night of the soul,” that is indeed a divine miracle that has earth-shifting power. When Twins go through the worst with each other and triumph in undying love nonetheless, this helps to heal the entire human experience. Triumphing out of total disaster is the human experience, whereby we perfectly transform through forgiveness and unconditional love.     

So what can we Twins do more specifically right now? Be spiritual. Focus on your spiritual Ascension process instead of getting bogged down in old world problems, including ancient pain. Become sovereign of your energy, your being, and your experience. Heaven-on-earth is actually available right now if you choose it. Exude powerful, unconditional love, individually and then together when possible. The idea is to be a star radiating light outwardly from a powerful core instead of being a starfish recoiling in fear and suffering. This means not playing into division, but rather, rising above it—sometimes with humor, which is always a lifesaver. Of course, this feels impossible when your Twin baits you and triggers old wounds! But you can become aware of trauma and sabotage, and you can create a safe space for yourself. Build your light from within individually until you are strong enough to be on board with your Twin without succumbing to triggers. And remember, practicing unconditional love does not mean suffering emotional abuse. It means setting boundaries that honor you as you become a role model for your Twin. You can then seek healing methods and tools that you are drawn to that encourage you to be empowered and sovereign. 

The time for fighting is over because this only serves darkness. The time for victimhood is over too, for the exact same reason. Each Twin is being called to embody the highest light and divine representation of masculine and feminine qualities in union. Each Twin is being called to embody total, unconditional love for themselves, their Twin and for all of humanity. Though Twin Flame experiences can be brutally heartbreaking, spiraling us into darkness and despair, heartbreak allows the heart to crack wide open so that we can love like we have never loved before. This is what Twins do for each other. We open ourselves up so completely that we are absolutely vulnerable, and the only way out of our pain is to love it with everything we’ve got. We have to love everything that traumatizes us until it melts into yet more love. That is when all-is-lost becomes all-is-found. That is when you realize that your eternal love is infinite and shines out from your being, easily engulfing any human trauma. You are pure, immortal innocence and no human experience can permanently hurt you. You are here to laugh all sabotage in the face and assuredly, magnificently Ascend. 

ShareTheSpiritual.com SuzanneM.Baker.com  

Poem to my Twin Flame, before I knew what a Twin Flame was!

From the Archives:

Goddess is way too tame a term

To point toward the beauty for whom I yearn.

Helen herself was too plain

To hold a candle to my eternal flame.

She! She is my Earth, my Moon, my Sun.

Drowning in her ocean eyes, life has begun.

 

 

Our Rapid Evolution: Current Process

As you read this, humanity is undergoing a seemingly hidden, yet blatantly obvious spiritual evolution. This evolution involves finalizing our core healing. We are finishing out processing old traumas and judgments so that we can become unlimited and unconditionally loving. This means that you are personally evolving by processing your own past experiences of pain. You are healing your deepest traumas and subsequent judgments—all the pain that has held you back, until nothing can hold you back any more.

The key to your healing process is to understand that you came to this life to overcome experiences that severely limited you exactly so that you could become completely unlimited. You were born to become responsibly powerful and fully loving—unconditionally so that you are infinitely free. That is the process you are currently going through.

You are freeing yourself from limitation so that you can know its opposite through and through, at the deepest soul-experience level. You are rescuing yourself from your human conditioning (something I explain in detail in my book, Love is Free) so that you will never be put down again. Human conditioning is the systematic way that we have all been trained to put ourselves and others down through unworthiness, and it lies at the bottom of our most painful ordeals.

For example, right now I am overcoming the traumatic experience of feeling ostracized and undervalued in my past—dramatically and repeatedly so (I’m sure you can relate!). My Twin Flame, Spencer—the other half of my split soul, shares this healing with me from his own past, and by acknowledging the truth that we have experienced our deep pain, we fully see our human conditioning. We fully see how it has pushed us to limit ourselves in life in so many ways. By facing our human pain, we are able to see its lesson—to stop limiting ourselves. We are able to overcome this pain and realize its opposite—that we unconditionally belong in an eternally loving universe as sacred aspects of GodSource. We can never truly be ostracized or undervalued because we are always one with the holiness of everyone and everything. We always have been. 

One crucial aid to overcoming trauma is acceptance. Acceptance means that we let go of trying to blame others for our pain and instead simply focus on our own. Of course, it’s understandably easy to get paralyzed by what others have done to you, especially when no purpose for such cruelty seems apparent. But feeling acceptance means that you recognize with full compassion that all of us came here to overcome for a great purpose—to fully embody unlimited, unconditional love from the inside out—and through our pain we have been helping each other to do this. We are all one in beneficent LOVE after all.

Recently, I experienced a very personal breakthrough involving acceptance, after which I was able to heal pain from two key relationships. I had outgrown these relationships several years ago when I grew spiritually in my life, yet I had always hoped we would meet in mutual understanding on the other side of change. In fact, I assumed these people wanted healing and progress forward in our relationship with the same zealous optimism that I did. They did not. And that’s what I was able to finally see and accept. They wanted to remain as things had been and keep the dynamic we had known—especially in its fractured state, and in realizing this I was able to let my rosy expectations go. I was able to let these beautiful people go from what I wanted from them and simply heal on my own. With this understanding, my healing was instantaneous. What’s more, I stopped interfering in their healing process, and I was able to love them as I hadn’t been before.

Healing pain means ending the fight over how you think people should be and letting the chips fall where they may. This is true surrender of control, and once you let go in this way—once you feel a full sense of loss, then FREEDOM, then PEACE, you open yourself up to receive. I speak from experience. Last month, I surrendered all control over one gigantic and painfully unattainable dream. I let it go completely and even threw out all papers related to it. A few days later, I received a call that made my dream come true.

I know your dreams will come true too—every last precious one of them. I know you will overcome your darkest trials and seize their opposite—your dearest wishes come to glorious fruition. I know you will realize your magnificent brilliance and your all-accepting LOVE—your undying desire for harmony for all. Just keep going through your courageous process. We will rejoice together at the after-party.

We Are Ascending

Right now, massive waves of light are reaching planet earth and changing the human experience forever. The light of higher consciousness is flooding our world, waking us from our brutal human conditioning and calling us to spiritual love. Love that is infinite, all-accepting and eternally generous. Love that is who we really are. And deep down in our souls, we feel a pressing urgency to get back to it. We know it is time to Ascend.

Spiritual love is calling us away from the suffering we have known. It is calling us back to ourselves. This is the same epic love that the Beloved awakens, and if you are a Twin Flame, you know exactly what it feels like. Intimately.

You know how otherworldly and all-powerful love really is, and how unbearable it feels when it’s elusive. You know love and its full-body longing, and you know the euphoria of etheric merging. Indeed, the desire to be one with the Beloved is overpowering. The need to unite and never part again is excruciatingly sweet and miserable. And this desire is the same as the need to get back to spiritual love. It is the same longing to get back ourselves and to never let go again, because love is where we come from. We just forgot that for a little while.

We were lost and blind, searching without comprehension, kept apart and made to wait FOREVER. But somewhere within, we know that we are not meek, helpless humans. We are higher beings who are incredibly powerful and unlimited. We are expansive creators who come from the most loving reality that is far more real than this human plane. And finally, light is bombarding the darkness and we are remembering this.

Finally, light is awakening love within us and healing everything in the way of union—union with the Beloved, union with our precious selves. Union with everyone and everything in our storied past and all the realms of existence. We are becoming whole, never to be fractured again. Never to suffer alone in separation. We are bringing home the long-lost parts of ourselves and taking care of them—no more shunning, shaming, or hiding. No more suffering over what we can’t have because we already are everything, and this is obvious when we embody spiritual love.

Unifying, all-healing, ever-glorious love. Let us simply feel it and know this is what we seek. This is what we cried out for in the terrible dark night. Love is the Beloved we yearn for. Love is what opens us wider with awareness, ’til we see that we are what we seek.

Twin Flames understand this to the core, and we are here to lead the spiritual process of union. We are here to heal humanity, one brave partner at a time, one magic love story at a time—yes, we are living out the ultimate legend. And tho’ conditioning runs deep, and tho’ our job has been horribly rough, love is unstoppable and it is fiercely victorious—no matter the separation we have endured. For we are rising to the highest human experience. Yes we are Ascending, at long last, as you read this.

 

The Pain of Separation

If there was one wish my beloved Suzanne and I could be granted, we would wish for our dear TwinFlame friends to be free of their pain—the pain of separation.

However, from a spiritual growth perspective, one knows that this pain is a great gift; this pain drives us to seek oneness within ourselves, for only that can assuage the intense torment of separation.

To seek oneness with another, especially your Twin, is what this pain seams to be guiding you towards. Yet this longing actually reinforces the greatest truth that we forgot so completely, so long ago. And this truth is the great liberator.

All human suffering is born of the fact that we believe we are separate; and moreover, only something ‘other’ than us, something outside, can heal us. For Twin Flames, this means that we yearn for union so fervently because we believe that it will make us whole. We believe that reunion will heal us.

The illusion is certainly convincing enough. Clearly our bodies are separate forms, aren’t they? Well not really, and science now understands this. The fact is—and it is a demonstrable fact—that there are no boundaries between bodies and between forms. We are all literally interconnected at the quantum level. Finally, science and spirituality agree on something! So in the highest states of consciousness, we are all one. Like the Dalai Lama and his favorite hotdog, we are one with everything.

So we can begin to conceive that the Twin we yearn for so terribly is in fact already part of us, is already within us, and only a state of consciousness keeps us in a state of tormenting illusion. And if we seek out the highest path, the path of self-mastery and self-love, then we can gently break open this illusion. We can allow the truth of Divine Love to engulf our being, and then we know that we are already in union in a higher dimension—a dimension we cannot perceive yet with our present state of consciousness.

But how can we even begin to dispel such a unilaterally irresistible illusion of separation?

We begin by learning to redirect the love we have for our Twin inward upon ourselves. We meditate on the truth that we are all one in the higher dimensions, and we fully embody this as solid belief. And soon, that same self-love is available for all of creation down here in the lower density. We are all elevated towards unconditional love—the undying love of Twin Flames.

The role of the Twin Flame is to intensify our sense of separation and the feeling of incompleteness, to the point where we just can’t take it anymore. We lose our minds in the madness, literally, and then stop letting our minds rule. We fall to our knees and open our hearts to the truth that we forgot—that we have always been completely whole. We simply forgot who we were for a little while.

Infinite Love,

Spencer

 

 

Twin Flames are Here to Serve

If you are feeling intense, otherworldly love for your Beloved and cannot be with them, hear our heartfelt words. In fact, if you want to give up on your Beloved entirely, this clarion call applies to you too:

All that you have to do right now is simply feel the infinite love that your Beloved has inspired in you, and recognize what a Godsend this love is—in and of itself. Recognize that your Beloved helped you to open your heart wider than you ever thought possible so that divine love could pour through you and into your life, allowing dramatic healing and growth.

This love changed everything for you. And this love is here to change the earth too. For you are here to help transform this place by bringing love here. You are here to serve.

Your brave assignment is to bring unconditional love to this tired human experience. This is what creates our long-awaited heaven on earth. You are here to alchemize this dense world from lead into purest gold, through total unconditional love—the love that your Beloved has inspired. The love that you truly are.

What a purpose you have, courageous soul! So seize your purpose, and bring this love into reality, and anchor it securely on the earth. Bring a higher experience to this realm and help us to Ascend.

Now we know that Twin Flame challenges can make everything seem tragic, but you must overcome limited thinking. Don’t limit the angelic love that you feel with human corruption! Don’t make this all-powerful love conditional and possessive, thus wrecking transformation!

And get this. Your separation from your beloved actually intensifies your feelings of love, so use this opportunity to get your work done! Bring the love that we need for transformation—the transformation that precedes harmonious union and Eden.

Go forth, Beloved soul, and be brave with unconditional love. Be bold with love even in the face of the ridiculous. Be powerful even in the grips of rejection. All you have to do is feel love. Just feel it. Feel the love that is you—that is your Beloved too. For love is everyone, and we are remembering it two by two.

S&S

Waiting for Yourself

Are you struggling in a Twin Flame situation that involves waiting? If so, you are being asked to take total charge of yourself so that you aren’t waiting for anything anymore. You see, waiting is always a call to mastery. It is an invitation to stop letting anything have power over you.

So if you are waiting for the day when you can unite with your Other Half, you are being asked to fulfill yourself completely right now and get 100% in charge of your own life. You are being urged to end your own suffering and live in complete sovereignty in the present moment. But how exactly do you do this?! Through the incredible power of Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love makes every problem with your Twin Flame go away. It melts all of your struggles with pure acceptance. There is no more suffering and there is no more resistance. You are no longer resisting who you really are. You aren’t blocking how your life is meant to flow – effortlessly, harmoniously, with total LOVE for all. You are free, complete, and powerful – your true self.

This is something that became obvious to us post union, having seen our ultimate relationship to fruition. We still had to keep tackling our individual healing, and even Twin Flame union wasn’t going to do that for us. We still had to discipline ourselves to embody unconditional love in this weary world, and by now doing this, all of our suffering is being dissolved. Lifetimes of it – gone forever at last. And we see that ending our own suffering has always been up to us. No one else. We have stopped waiting for humanity to evolve and we are doing the work ourselves – fully, completely, with no one accountable but us. All of the complaining we have ever done was because we did not take responsibility for our own power.

Any sense of waiting that any human experiences is simply because they have forgotten their own powerful love. And that natural state is always already here. Right now, every human being on the planet is being asked to stop waiting for anything outside themselves – whether an ultimate Twin Flame relationship, an evolutionary shift, or any kind of rescue – and step into their own mastery. This is what humanity’s spiritual evolution is waiting for.

Yes, Earth Ascension is waiting for you. It is waiting for you to take charge and decide that you will embody unconditional love with every thought and every breath throughout your day. Humanity is waiting for you to remember your true nature all of the time and practice all-accepting love at every moment of your life.

Making the commitment to do this – especially through your unbelievably challenging Twin Flame situation, sheds the conditional love that has kept you down and made you wait – that has made you feel bereft, abandoned and betrayed. You become the incredibly powerful being of love you really are, and this changes the world overnight. This tips the balance for all humans and creates a magically joyful experience at last.

Everything is possible with Unconditional Love. All healing and miraculous compassion. The truth is that we have all been in survival mode for a very long time and everything can be forgiven with Unconditional Love. This is what frees us. This is what gives us back ourselves.

So give love to everything and everyone that feels even remotely like a problem in your life. Practice unconditional acceptance with every thought you think and every word you speak. Love your old thoughts away and create new compassionate ones. As you do – as you practice Unconditional Love, you will hear the call to accept yourself most of all. Because everything originates with you.

That’s right, everything originates with you. So don’t wait in agony any more, beautiful Twin! You are what you are waiting for. You are the gorgeous Twin Flame LOVE that you feel, and that love is asking you to love all, all of the time.

You don’t have to live at the mercy of anything anymore, waiting for a time in some distant future when you will finally feel fulfilled. That time is now because you have decided it is so and you are now in charge! That is how you live in total fulfillment that is ever-blissful and radiates with all-encompassing Unconditional Love. 

It is up to you, brave and beneficent friend, and you are so special, so powerful and so heroic! You know who you are – each of you we have the honour to reach through this site, and we send our deepest heartfelt wishes to you.

Reunite Yourself

The overwhelming love that your Beloved awakens in you is your natural state. The incredible full-body bliss that you feel is you. And this is only a taste of the delicious love that you are made of. It is but a teaser of the infinite LOVE you really are.

Blissful love is your real state. Harmony is your real state. The incredible longing that you feel for your Beloved is the same longing to get back to this. It is the overwhelming desire to heal all the discordant separation in you – all of the conflict and suffering, so that you can return to total LOVE.

The whole reason for your ever-challenging Twin Flame situation is to help you get back to your natural state and your real self, which is total peace, freedom, joy and unconditional LOVE.

“But how can I return to love when I am suffering so much?!!!”

We know exactly how this feels, breakdown after relentless breakdown. Because the old human you is actually breaking down so that you can be reborn entirely anew. You are removing your human conditioning, which is suffering itself. And this intense suffering is coming out to be healed so that you can start over as a brand new kind of human being.

Suffering comes from being conditioned to separate yourself from love. When you feel suffering, you are feeling your own painful separation from your true, infinitely divine and loving nature. The pain that you feel from your Beloved is your pain, just as the love that you feel from them is your love. If you resist this actuality, you will keep suffering. 

Your task is to take responsibility for your own pain, as excruciating as it may be, because only you can do something about it. Your Twin Flame situation is urging you to do this. Your Beloved is pushing you to do this – to face your own internal divide head on, and to do so utterly alone. Otherwise, it will never be addressed.

And think about it. If you did not feel separate from love, you would not need anything from your Beloved, or from anyone! Nothing would be missing. You would not be waiting or feeling alone and cast aside.

So if you are experiencing a devastating running and chasing scenario, please understand that this is providing exactly what you need to heal your own suffering. And the solution is to unite yourself inside and heal your own divide – to heal your own duality that seeks an outside figure to fulfill your own dreams. Because bliss is always unconditional. It does not need anything to be complete. It already is. This has become crystal clear for us post union.

As you heal, you will increasingly find that there is nothing conditional or external. Indeed, there is no separation – there never was. You are already one with your Beloved because you are one with everyone and everything! You are already united with all life. And yes, you are completely supported and cherished at every second. This is how you really exist beyond this temporary human world.

You are the same blissful, all-powerful LOVE that you feel in your Twin Flame experience. That is the real you, and once you have broken down all of your suffering, you will feel this fully as an entirely new human being. That is how dramatic this opportunity is.

So don’t give up on this chance – you will never receive a better one! Don’t give up on YOU, but rather choose you, and let everyone else choose what they want too. That is total unconditional love. And that is your natural state.

At the end of the day, your romantic connection is pushing you to remember how unconditionally loved you are and how unconditionally loving you are. When you have removed your suffering and begun anew, you will feel powerful enough to give love to everything that tells you otherwise. You will know that you have become your true self in human form – so incredibly magnificent with infinite LOVE!!! What a miraculous accomplishment.

We send our heartfelt support to each of you struggling on this most challenging of challenging paths. This is your lifetime to heal all lifetimes during these intense Ascension years, and we believe with all of our soul that you absolutely will.

  • Please note, we are not able to offer personal help right now as life has taken us in new exciting directions! Know that your own loving guidance is the best information available to you. The process of becoming your own source of help is an essential part of your Twin Flame Ascension experience and full-body transformation. There is an exercise on our site that can help you to receive your own guidance.

Infinite Love,

Suzanne & Spencer

Greetings from the Other Side

Hello dear Twin Flames! Welcome brave souls – you who are going through the most dramatic and healing relationship you will ever know.

We want to tell you that our Twin Flame experience pushed us through the unthinkable, and it was absolutely worth it. Infinitely so.

Once upon a time, we were blindsided by the deepest LOVE, and now all of our blindspots have been removed. We have purged everything that used to keep us disempowered. We are living without guilt, shame, judgment, or fear. And we are FREE, as we are all meant to be – free to let the soul shine through human form. FREE to love each other in a blissful otherworld.

And we would do it all over again – what we went through to be together. In fact, we were never going to stop. We were going to spend the rest of our lives trying, no matter what it took. Because when the soul calls, the frail human ego and its house of cards – no matter how important they seem, do not stand a chance. You know it. They never will. The house will fall eventually. Why prolong your destiny?

And can you really? Can you put off what calls every fiber of your being? Can you resist the tsunami pull of your heart and soul, and the only one who lights up your world? Because the longing that your Twin Flame unleashes is the same longing you have felt since you were a teenager – to know love as you’ve always dreamed. To know yourself.

All of this is a grand homecoming for every one of us – even those who fall in LOVE’s wake. Even those we must leave so that they remember their own LOVE. And yes, even those whose Twins have run.

We chose our homecoming sooner rather than later. And even though disaster ensued longer than we could barely take, lo! heaven is here on the other side. The same heaven that waits for you, courageous one. The same reunion with yourself, which means reunion with the Divine. Yes, it’s here, just on the other side of healing, with your one-and-only perfect Other Half.