Today, we celebrate four years of marriage—four epic years of growth on the material plane. Today, we stand hand in hand, heart in heart, solidified in physical union. We stand here with awesome gratitude and look back at how we discovered our separation, and how we faced the impossible to unite.
Nearly seven years ago, we found each other out of nowhere and quickly realized the odds were against us for union. But we stared that nightmare dead in the face and said, “NO! We must be together, no matter what that means.” We peered into the physical chasm between us—the Atlantic abyss between us and jumped wildly into the defiant sea.
Reunion was thwarted at every turn, but our hopes were never dashed. To our surprise, we were guided by every sign post and every spark of synchronicity. To our surprise, we received blind assistance from those around us who wished us ill. We were stripped bare only to overcome our kingdoms. Only to get closer with every challenge. Only to feel love grow and deepen, despite myriad conditions.
For love returned to our lives just when we least expected it, just as love returns to earth this shining hour! Love is returning one blazing love story at a time—one bold union at a time. Each bright union back into ONE.
Love is returning to human life with full force and blessed permanence, and all it takes is a touch or a gaze from each other to bring us back to the beginning—to eternal all-that-matters LOVE.
A crucial method of healing has recently come to light for us, and it involves how we humans behave in order to protect ourselves. We recreate what we’ve done in the past in order to prove that how we originally handled things was right. We do this to prove that we are lovable and valuable instead of how the experience made us feel—unlovable and not valuable. And we do this until we become strong with self-worth.
We recreate painful experiences until we truly get that we are cherished in the universe and that we are unconditionally loved.
This is why you might leave a job or relationship and then find yourself repeating similar painful experiences in a new job or new relationship. This is why you might repeat the same painful interactions with your Beloved over and over again. You are trying to justify your worth, your integrity, and your abilities one more time, through a situation that you are familiar with. But if you are stuck in the need to justify anything, you are stuck in the painful past. And you are likely to repeat it.
So how do you stop repeating painful experiences? Start by taking a good hard look at what those experiences have taught you. Then take those lessons to heart. For example, if you felt disrespected in a prior relationship, left that relationship, and then found a new relationship with the same dynamic of disrespect, you are trying to justify that you were right to leave then and now. You are trying to assert all over again that you deserve respect. The lesson is to give yourself respect right now and to insist upon it in all of your interactions without needing to repeat the past.
Once you take the lesson to heart, you don’t need the same experience to teach you that lesson any longer. You are free to move on to higher experiences.
So ask yourself, what painful situations have I repeated in my life, and what have they been trying to teach me?
As you gain awareness of repetition in your relationships, you will see that some people repeat being hurtful to others. Why? To justify that they were right in being hurtful the first time around! What’s worse, such people shift the blame to the person whom they hurt. They do not have the gift of self-awareness (yet) which is the key to healing yourself.
Fortunately, there is always healing and wisdom to be gained on the other side of your experiences—once you stop repeating them. And again, once you let self-respect sink in, you are able to move on to new experiences. You just don’t resonate any longer with past patterns and can’t go anywhere near disrespect.
But if you have struggled with self-respect in the past (and who hasn’t?!) how do you truly grasp and embody it now? You do so by facing yourself head on in the mirror. You take a brave look into all the dark corners of your humanness, and you admit why you do what you do. You look at how you judge yourself inside, and you heal that judgment with self-love. I explain this healing process in my guide, “You Are Infinitely Loved.”
Please know that you don’t have to prove a thing to anyone on this planet, most especially to yourself. Repeat after us: you are perfect just the way you are right now. You have never done anything truly wrong from the larger perspective of creation. You have always done the best you could with all that you were handling. You don’t need to justify that you were right in the past because you actually really were. Let this feeling of being fully accepted sink in, and then realize that you don’t have to prove yourself ever again. You can go forward with new uplifting experiences.
Then something sublime happens. You don’t need anyone else to prove themselves to you either. And you don’t need your Beloved to prove their love because it has always already been there.
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We’re on the TwinFlame Divine Fire Radio Show today at 2:00 pm Pacific! You can listen to the recording afterwards too. What a pleasure and honor to share about Twin Flame union with Sandra and Alan!
As you read this, humanity is undergoing a seemingly hidden, yet blatantly obvious spiritual evolution. This evolution involves finalizing our core healing. We are finishing out processing old traumas and judgments so that we can become unlimited and unconditionally loving. This means that you are personally evolving by processing your own past experiences of pain. You are healing your deepest traumas and subsequent judgments—all the pain that has held you back, until nothing can hold you back any more.
The key to your healing process is to understand that you came to this life to overcome experiences that severely limited you exactly so that you could become completely unlimited. You were born to become responsibly powerful and fully loving—unconditionally so that you are infinitely free. That is the process you are currently going through.
You are freeing yourself from limitation so that you can know its opposite through and through, at the deepest soul-experience level. You are rescuing yourself from your human conditioning (something I explain in detail in my book, Love is Free) so that you will never be put down again. Human conditioning is the systematic way that we have all been trained to put ourselves and others down through unworthiness, and it lies at the bottom of our most painful ordeals.
For example, right now I am overcoming the traumatic experience of feeling ostracized and undervalued in my past—dramatically and repeatedly so (I’m sure you can relate!). My Twin Flame, Spencer—the other half of my split soul, shares this healing with me from his own past, and by acknowledging the truth that we have experienced our deep pain, we fully see our human conditioning. We fully see how it has pushed us to limit ourselves in life in so many ways. By facing our human pain, we are able to see its lesson—to stop limiting ourselves. We are able to overcome this pain and realize its opposite—that we unconditionally belong in an eternally loving universe as sacred aspects of GodSource. We can never truly be ostracized or undervalued because we are always one with the holiness of everyone and everything. We always have been.
One crucial aid to overcoming trauma is acceptance. Acceptance means that we let go of trying to blame others for our pain and instead simply focus on our own. Of course, it’s understandably easy to get paralyzed by what others have done to you, especially when no purpose for such cruelty seems apparent. But feeling acceptance means that you recognize with full compassion that all of us came here to overcome for a great purpose—to fully embody unlimited, unconditional love from the inside out—and through our pain we have been helping each other to do this. We are all one in beneficent LOVE after all.
Recently, I experienced a very personal breakthrough involving acceptance, after which I was able to heal pain from two key relationships. I had outgrown these relationships several years ago when I grew spiritually in my life, yet I had always hoped we would meet in mutual understanding on the other side of change. In fact, I assumed these people wanted healing and progress forward in our relationship with the same zealous optimism that I did. They did not. And that’s what I was able to finally see and accept. They wanted to remain as things had been and keep the dynamic we had known—especially in its fractured state, and in realizing this I was able to let my rosy expectations go. I was able to let these beautiful people go from what I wanted from them and simply heal on my own. With this understanding, my healing was instantaneous. What’s more, I stopped interfering in their healing process, and I was able to love them as I hadn’t been before.
Healing pain means ending the fight over how you think people should be and letting the chips fall where they may. This is true surrender of control, and once you let go in this way—once you feel a full sense of loss, then FREEDOM, then PEACE, you open yourself up to receive. I speak from experience. Last month, I surrendered all control over one gigantic and painfully unattainable dream. I let it go completely and even threw out all papers related to it. A few days later, I received a call that made my dream come true.
I know your dreams will come true too—every last precious one of them. I know you will overcome your darkest trials and seize their opposite—your dearest wishes come to glorious fruition. I know you will realize your magnificent brilliance and your all-accepting LOVE—your undying desire for harmony for all. Just keep going through your courageous process. We will rejoice together at the after-party.
Right now, massive waves of light are reaching planet earth and changing the human experience forever. The light of higher consciousness is flooding our world, waking us from our brutal human conditioning and calling us to spiritual love. Love that is infinite, all-accepting and eternally generous. Love that is who we really are. And deep down in our souls, we feel a pressing urgency to get back to it. We know it is time to Ascend.
Spiritual love is calling us away from the suffering we have known. It is calling us back to ourselves. This is the same epic love that the Beloved awakens, and if you are a Twin Flame, you know exactly what it feels like. Intimately.
You know how otherworldly and all-powerful love really is, and how unbearable it feels when it’s elusive. You know love and its full-body longing, and you know the euphoria of etheric merging. Indeed, the desire to be one with the Beloved is overpowering. The need to unite and never part again is excruciatingly sweet and miserable. And this desire is the same as the need to get back to spiritual love. It is the same longing to get back ourselves and to never let go again, because love is where we come from. We just forgot that for a little while.
We were lost and blind, searching without comprehension, kept apart and made to wait FOREVER. But somewhere within, we know that we are not meek, helpless humans. We are higher beings who are incredibly powerful and unlimited. We are expansive creators who come from the most loving reality that is far more real than this human plane. And finally, light is bombarding the darkness and we are remembering this.
Finally, light is awakening love within us and healing everything in the way of union—union with the Beloved, union with our precious selves. Union with everyone and everything in our storied past and all the realms of existence. We are becoming whole, never to be fractured again. Never to suffer alone in separation. We are bringing home the long-lost parts of ourselves and taking care of them—no more shunning, shaming, or hiding. No more suffering over what we can’t have because we already are everything, and this is obvious when we embody spiritual love.
Unifying, all-healing, ever-glorious love. Let us simply feel it and know this is what we seek. This is what we cried out for in the terrible dark night. Love is the Beloved we yearn for. Love is what opens us wider with awareness, ’til we see that we are what we seek.
Twin Flames understand this to the core, and we are here to lead the spiritual process of union. We are here to heal humanity, one brave partner at a time, one magic love story at a time—yes, we are living out the ultimate legend. And tho’ conditioning runs deep, and tho’ our job has been horribly rough, love is unstoppable and it is fiercely victorious—no matter the separation we have endured. For we are rising to the highest human experience. Yes we are Ascending, at long last, as you read this.
If you are feeling intense, otherworldly love for your Beloved and cannot be with them, hear our heartfelt words. In fact, if you want to give up on your Beloved entirely, this clarion call applies to you too:
All that you have to do right now is simply feel the infinite love that your Beloved has inspired in you, and recognize what a Godsend this love is—in and of itself. Recognize that your Beloved helped you to open your heart wider than you ever thought possible so that divine love could pour through you and into your life, allowing dramatic healing and growth.
This love changed everything for you. And this love is here to change the earth too. For you are here to help transform this place by bringing love here. You are here to serve.
Your brave assignment is to bring unconditional love to this tired human experience. This is what creates our long-awaited heaven on earth. You are here to alchemize this dense world from lead into purest gold, through total unconditional love—the love that your Beloved has inspired. The love that you truly are.
What a purpose you have, courageous soul! So seize your purpose, and bring this love into reality, and anchor it securely on the earth. Bring a higher experience to this realm and help us to Ascend.
Now we know that Twin Flame challenges can make everything seem tragic, but you must overcome limited thinking. Don’t limit the angelic love that you feel with human corruption! Don’t make this all-powerful love conditional and possessive, thus wrecking transformation!
And get this. Your separation from your beloved actually intensifies your feelings of love, so use this opportunity to get your work done! Bring the love that we need for transformation—the transformation that precedes harmonious union and Eden.
Go forth, Beloved soul, and be brave with unconditional love. Be bold with love even in the face of the ridiculous. Be powerful even in the grips of rejection. All you have to do is feel love. Just feel it. Feel the love that is you—that is your Beloved too. For love is everyone, and we are remembering it two by two.
Are you struggling in a Twin Flame situation that involves waiting? If so, you are being asked to take total charge of yourself so that you aren’t waiting for anything anymore. You see, waiting is always a call to mastery. It is an invitation to stop letting anything have power over you.
So if you are waiting for the day when you can unite with your Other Half, you are being asked to fulfill yourself completely right now and get 100% in charge of your own life. You are being urged to end your own suffering and live in complete sovereignty in the present moment. But how exactly do you do this?! Through the incredible power of Unconditional Love.
Unconditional Love makes every problem with your Twin Flame go away. It melts all of your struggles with pure acceptance. There is no more suffering and there is no more resistance. You are no longer resisting who you really are. You aren’t blocking how your life is meant to flow – effortlessly, harmoniously, with total LOVE for all. You are free, complete, and powerful – your true self.
This is something that became obvious to us post union, having seen our ultimate relationship to fruition. We still had to keep tackling our individual healing, and even Twin Flame union wasn’t going to do that for us. We still had to discipline ourselves to embody unconditional love in this weary world, and by now doing this, all of our suffering is being dissolved. Lifetimes of it – gone forever at last. And we see that ending our own suffering has always been up to us. No one else. We have stopped waiting for humanity to evolve and we are doing the work ourselves – fully, completely, with no one accountable but us. All of the complaining we have ever done was because we did not take responsibility for our own power.
Any sense of waiting that any human experiences is simply because they have forgotten their own powerful love. And that natural state is always already here. Right now, every human being on the planet is being asked to stop waiting for anything outside themselves – whether an ultimate Twin Flame relationship, an evolutionary shift, or any kind of rescue – and step into their own mastery. This is what humanity’s spiritual evolution is waiting for.
Yes, Earth Ascension is waiting for you. It is waiting for you to take charge and decide that you will embody unconditional love with every thought and every breath throughout your day. Humanity is waiting for you to remember your true nature all of the time and practice all-accepting love at every moment of your life.
Making the commitment to do this – especially through your unbelievably challenging Twin Flame situation, sheds the conditional love that has kept you down and made you wait – that has made you feel bereft, abandoned and betrayed. You become the incredibly powerful being of love you really are, and this changes the world overnight. This tips the balance for all humans and creates a magically joyful experience at last.
Everything is possible with Unconditional Love. All healing and miraculous compassion. The truth is that we have all been in survival mode for a very long time and everything can be forgiven with Unconditional Love. This is what frees us. This is what gives us back ourselves.
So give love to everything and everyone that feels even remotely like a problem in your life. Practice unconditional acceptance with every thought you think and every word you speak. Love your old thoughts away and create new compassionate ones. As you do – as you practice Unconditional Love, you will hear the call to accept yourself most of all. Because everything originates with you.
That’s right, everything originates with you. So don’t wait in agony any more, beautiful Twin! You are what you are waiting for. You are the gorgeous Twin Flame LOVE that you feel, and that love is asking you to love all, all of the time.
You don’t have to live at the mercy of anything anymore, waiting for a time in some distant future when you will finally feel fulfilled. That time is now because you have decided it is so and you are now in charge! That is how you live in total fulfillment that is ever-blissful and radiates with all-encompassing Unconditional Love.
It is up to you, brave and beneficent friend, and you are so special, so powerful and so heroic! You know who you are – each of you we have the honour to reach through this site, and we send our deepest heartfelt wishes to you.
The overwhelming love that your Beloved awakens in you is your natural state. The incredible full-body bliss that you feel is you. And this is only a taste of the delicious love that you are made of. It is but a teaser of the infinite LOVE you really are.
Blissful love is your real state. Harmony is your real state. The incredible longing that you feel for your Beloved is the same longing to get back to this. It is the overwhelming desire to heal all the discordant separation in you – all of the conflict and suffering, so that you can return to total LOVE.
The whole reason for your ever-challenging Twin Flame situation is to help you get back to your natural state and your real self, which is total peace, freedom, joy and unconditional LOVE.
“But how can I return to love when I am suffering so much?!!!”
We know exactly how this feels, breakdown after relentless breakdown. Because the old human you is actually breaking down so that you can be reborn entirely anew. You are removing your human conditioning, which is suffering itself. And this intense suffering is coming out to be healed so that you can start over as a brand new kind of human being.
Suffering comes from being conditioned to separate yourself from love. When you feel suffering, you are feeling your own painful separation from your true, infinitely divine and loving nature. The pain that you feel from your Beloved is your pain, just as the love that you feel from them is your love. If you resist this actuality, you will keep suffering.
Your task is to take responsibility for your own pain, as excruciating as it may be, because only you can do something about it. Your Twin Flame situation is urging you to do this. Your Beloved is pushing you to do this – to face your own internal divide head on, and to do so utterly alone. Otherwise, it will never be addressed.
And think about it. If you did not feel separate from love, you would not need anything from your Beloved, or from anyone! Nothing would be missing. You would not be waiting or feeling alone and cast aside.
So if you are experiencing a devastating running and chasing scenario, please understand that this is providing exactly what you need to heal your own suffering. And the solution is to unite yourself inside and heal your own divide – to heal your own duality that seeks an outside figure to fulfill your own dreams. Because bliss is always unconditional. It does not need anything to be complete. It already is. This has become crystal clear for us post union.
As you heal, you will increasingly find that there is nothing conditional or external. Indeed, there is no separation – there never was. You are already one with your Beloved because you are one with everyone and everything! You are already united with all life. And yes, you are completely supported and cherished at every second. This is how you really exist beyond this temporary human world.
You are the same blissful, all-powerful LOVE that you feel in your Twin Flame experience. That is the real you, and once you have broken down all of your suffering, you will feel this fully as an entirely new human being. That is how dramatic this opportunity is.
So don’t give up on this chance – you will never receive a better one! Don’t give up on YOU, but rather choose you, and let everyone else choose what they want too. That is total unconditional love. And that is your natural state.
At the end of the day, your romantic connection is pushing you to remember how unconditionally loved you are and how unconditionally loving you are. When you have removed your suffering and begun anew, you will feel powerful enough to give love to everything that tells you otherwise. You will know that you have become your true self in human form – so incredibly magnificent with infinite LOVE!!! What a miraculous accomplishment.
We send our heartfelt support to each of you struggling on this most challenging of challenging paths. This is your lifetime to heal all lifetimes during these intense Ascension years, and we believe with all of our soul that you absolutely will.
- Please note, we are not able to offer personal help right now as life has taken us in new exciting directions! Know that your own loving guidance is the best information available to you. The process of becoming your own source of help is an essential part of your Twin Flame Ascension experience and full-body transformation. There is an exercise on our site that can help you to receive your own guidance.
Suzanne & Spencer