The Pain of Separation

If there was one wish my beloved Suzanne and I could be granted, we would wish for our dear TwinFlame friends to be free of their pain—the pain of separation.

However, from a spiritual growth perspective, one knows that this pain is a great gift; this pain drives us to seek oneness within ourselves, for only that can assuage the intense torment of separation.

To seek oneness with another, especially your Twin, is what this pain seams to be guiding you towards. Yet this longing actually reinforces the greatest truth that we forgot so completely, so long ago. And this truth is the great liberator.

All human suffering is born of the fact that we believe we are separate; and moreover, only something ‘other’ than us, something outside, can heal us. For Twin Flames, this means that we yearn for union so fervently because we believe that it will make us whole. We believe that reunion will heal us.

The illusion is certainly convincing enough. Clearly our bodies are separate forms, aren’t they? Well not really, and science now understands this. The fact is—and it is a demonstrable fact—that there are no boundaries between bodies and between forms. We are all literally interconnected at the quantum level. Finally, science and spirituality agree on something! So in the highest states of consciousness, we are all one. Like the Dalai Lama and his favorite hotdog, we are one with everything.

So we can begin to conceive that the Twin we yearn for so terribly is in fact already part of us, is already within us, and only a state of consciousness keeps us in a state of tormenting illusion. And if we seek out the highest path, the path of self-mastery and self-love, then we can gently break open this illusion. We can allow the truth of Divine Love to engulf our being, and then we know that we are already in union in a higher dimension—a dimension we cannot perceive yet with our present state of consciousness.

But how can we even begin to dispel such a unilaterally irresistible illusion of separation?

We begin by learning to redirect the love we have for our Twin inward upon ourselves. We meditate on the truth that we are all one in the higher dimensions, and we fully embody this as solid belief. And soon, that same self-love is available for all of creation down here in the lower density. We are all elevated towards unconditional love—the undying love of Twin Flames.

The role of the Twin Flame is to intensify our sense of separation and the feeling of incompleteness, to the point where we just can’t take it anymore. We lose our minds in the madness, literally, and then stop letting our minds rule. We fall to our knees and open our hearts to the truth that we forgot—that we have always been completely whole. We simply forgot who we were for a little while.

Infinite Love,

Spencer

 

 

Twin Flames are Here to Serve

If you are feeling intense, otherworldly love for your Beloved and cannot be with them, hear our heartfelt words. In fact, if you want to give up on your Beloved entirely, this clarion call applies to you too:

All that you have to do right now is simply feel the infinite love that your Beloved has inspired in you, and recognize what a Godsend this love is—in and of itself. Recognize that your Beloved helped you to open your heart wider than you ever thought possible so that divine love could pour through you and into your life, allowing dramatic healing and growth.

This love changed everything for you. And this love is here to change the earth too. For you are here to help transform this place by bringing love here. You are here to serve.

Your brave assignment is to bring unconditional love to this tired human experience. This is what creates our long-awaited heaven on earth. You are here to alchemize this dense world from lead into purest gold, through total unconditional love—the love that your Beloved has inspired. The love that you truly are.

What a purpose you have, courageous soul! So seize your purpose, and bring this love into reality, and anchor it securely on the earth. Bring a higher experience to this realm and help us to Ascend.

Now we know that Twin Flame challenges can make everything seem tragic, but you must overcome limited thinking. Don’t limit the angelic love that you feel with human corruption! Don’t make this all-powerful love conditional and possessive, thus wrecking transformation!

And get this. Your separation from your beloved actually intensifies your feelings of love, so use this opportunity to get your work done! Bring the love that we need for transformation—the transformation that precedes harmonious union and Eden.

Go forth, Beloved soul, and be brave with unconditional love. Be bold with love even in the face of the ridiculous. Be powerful even in the grips of rejection. All you have to do is feel love. Just feel it. Feel the love that is you—that is your Beloved too. For love is everyone, and we are remembering it two by two.

S&S

Waiting for Yourself

Are you struggling in a Twin Flame situation that involves waiting? If so, you are being asked to take total charge of yourself so that you aren’t waiting for anything anymore. You see, waiting is always a call to mastery. It is an invitation to stop letting anything have power over you.

So if you are waiting for the day when you can unite with your Other Half, you are being asked to fulfill yourself completely right now and get 100% in charge of your own life. You are being urged to end your own suffering and live in complete sovereignty in the present moment. But how exactly do you do this?! Through the incredible power of Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love makes every problem with your Twin Flame go away. It melts all of your struggles with pure acceptance. There is no more suffering and there is no more resistance. You are no longer resisting who you really are. You aren’t blocking how your life is meant to flow – effortlessly, harmoniously, with total LOVE for all. You are free, complete, and powerful – your true self.

This is something that became obvious to us post union, having seen our ultimate relationship to fruition. We still had to keep tackling our individual healing, and even Twin Flame union wasn’t going to do that for us. We still had to discipline ourselves to embody unconditional love in this weary world, and by now doing this, all of our suffering is being dissolved. Lifetimes of it – gone forever at last. And we see that ending our own suffering has always been up to us. No one else. We have stopped waiting for humanity to evolve and we are doing the work ourselves – fully, completely, with no one accountable but us. All of the complaining we have ever done was because we did not take responsibility for our own power.

Any sense of waiting that any human experiences is simply because they have forgotten their own powerful love. And that natural state is always already here. Right now, every human being on the planet is being asked to stop waiting for anything outside themselves – whether an ultimate Twin Flame relationship, an evolutionary shift, or any kind of rescue – and step into their own mastery. This is what humanity’s spiritual evolution is waiting for.

Yes, Earth Ascension is waiting for you. It is waiting for you to take charge and decide that you will embody unconditional love with every thought and every breath throughout your day. Humanity is waiting for you to remember your true nature all of the time and practice all-accepting love at every moment of your life.

Making the commitment to do this – especially through your unbelievably challenging Twin Flame situation, sheds the conditional love that has kept you down and made you wait – that has made you feel bereft, abandoned and betrayed. You become the incredibly powerful being of love you really are, and this changes the world overnight. This tips the balance for all humans and creates a magically joyful experience at last.

Everything is possible with Unconditional Love. All healing and miraculous compassion. The truth is that we have all been in survival mode for a very long time and everything can be forgiven with Unconditional Love. This is what frees us. This is what gives us back ourselves.

So give love to everything and everyone that feels even remotely like a problem in your life. Practice unconditional acceptance with every thought you think and every word you speak. Love your old thoughts away and create new compassionate ones. As you do – as you practice Unconditional Love, you will hear the call to accept yourself most of all. Because everything originates with you.

That’s right, everything originates with you. So don’t wait in agony any more, beautiful Twin! You are what you are waiting for. You are the gorgeous Twin Flame LOVE that you feel, and that love is asking you to love all, all of the time.

You don’t have to live at the mercy of anything anymore, waiting for a time in some distant future when you will finally feel fulfilled. That time is now because you have decided it is so and you are now in charge! That is how you live in total fulfillment that is ever-blissful and radiates with all-encompassing Unconditional Love. 

It is up to you, brave and beneficent friend, and you are so special, so powerful and so heroic! You know who you are – each of you we have the honour to reach through this site, and we send our deepest heartfelt wishes to you.

Ultimate Healing

It is very normal to feel completely fed up with your whole Twin Flame experience. For good reason. You are going through the toughest crash course in human growth that you will ever know. You are taking the fastest route back to your true self while living in human form.

Your true self is total love, and that is what your Twin Flame experience is leading you towards. You see, your Twin Flame experience is helping you to stop resisting your own unconditional, all-accepting love. It is urging you to release all the ways you do not love yourself enough and are looking for that love in someone else. Yes, from your Twin Flame. That is why you may find yourself experiencing dramatic separation from your Other Half, including total rejection.

It’s a cruel process, but entirely effective. And it is very normal to find yourself utterly devastated, time and time again. It is completely understandable to find yourself at a total loss after trying so hard to grow through this – after trying to believe in something that exhibits little material proof.

It all seems so suspicious. Here you have been so brave to heed the call of this love and to make irrevocable changes in your life. Yet still, you may find it impossible to be with your Twin Flame. You may even find yourself rejected by them, yet again! Yet you are spoiled for anyone else!!!

What the hell is going on? How long is this going to take? And are you delusional to believe in a happy ending that looks like a joke most of the time?

The answer, dear friend, is to throw these maddening questions away and simply focus on the healing opportunities that you are being given. This healing is what your soul is urging you towards, and it is the whole point. This healing is what makes all of this make sense. It’s what guarantees that you have not suffered in vain.

Your Twin Flame experience is offering you the most accelerated and dramatic healing available to you. Period. Just think about it. Romantic love has the capacity to reach into your very depths and render you intimately vulnerable. What better way to face everything inside you that cries out to be loved by you. What better way to heal than through the most ultimate romance imaginable.

Sometimes, it takes being rejected romantically in an ultimate way to bring out every part of you that does not feel loved – so that you finally do something about it. That is why your Beloved is a Spiritual Guide working with you in the most effective way possible to help you achieve this goal. That is how much they love you at the soul level. And that is why their rejection seems so suspicious.

The number one gift that you will take away from everything you are going through is becoming whole with unconditional love. And deep down, this is what you want more than anything else. You see, before union with your Beloved, you must create union with yourself. That is why you are being pushed to become whole in yourself so that you can embody pure, unconditional love on earth.

But don’t take our word for it. Listen to your own inner knowing. Listen to the voice of your own soul as it guides you through the sea of human illusions. Look to your deepest understanding of what is real and what is false. When we did this, we found that everything our inner knowing told us turned out to be true – every last piece of intuition. Every glorious future vision. It all came true, despite seeming foolishly impossible.

Oh beautiful soul, we wish you ultimate healing on your Twin Flame journey and on your Ascension path. So Godspeed, until you are whole with unconditional love. Until you are your true self in human form and more magnificent than you dared to even dream.

Why Twin Flames Run

By Spencer

It can seem almost inexplicably cruel that one half of a Twin Flame union almost inevitably ‘runs’ from the other. But actually, when we think about it, it is perfectly natural to attempt to avoid intense emotions that we can neither comprehend nor control.

How many of us have blown off clear signs meant to guide us. These signs challenge our view of the world, and in so doing, help us grow towards the light. But too often, we turn away from such synchronicities that we judge as unpalatable. We prefer the sleeping darkness we’ve become accustomed to.

I want to tell you beautiful Twins who are suffering – you who are tormented by the pain and longing of your running Twin – to actually rejoice! For the fact that your Twin Flame is running proves a very real and heartening point: they are feeling the intense pull, and their inability to ‘handle’ it proves that they are feeling it! What’s more, their running is forcing you to face your lack of trust in everything – in Twin Flame reunion and possibly the benevolent universe, period – so that you grow exponentially.

We are here to be challenged, and in facing those challenges, to learn to trust the unprecedented growth that is inescapable. If we have total trust in the Twin Flame experience, suffering and all, we can learn to trust that all aspects of life are here to ensure that we grow. This is how humanity will Ascend.

It is only when we resist our challenges and complain that we remain stuck in a 3d experience of suffering. For Twin Flames, this is magnified. Twin Flames are at the sharpest end of human experience. Resistance from the runner and chaser, the awake and the asleep, is doubly challenging. Yet the growth afforded becomes multiplied.

So when your life seems to be at its most vicious, it only serves to demonstrate in sharp relief that you are ready to make substantial leaps back to perfection. That is what you came here to do, my friend.

The most destabilizing experiences – the ones that challenge your whole view of the world, carry at their core the most stupendous opportunity for sublime expansion of spirit. In the end, you will be grateful beyond measure.

From the Ridiculous to the Sublime

The Twin Flame path can feel confusing, never-ending, and tumultuous to the point of absurdity. In essence, it is an initiation that gives you back yourself by removing all need, insecurity, and desperation. It does so by hurling you into a world of need, insecurity, and desperation – so that you heal these limitations forever. So that you become solid and strong in your own unconditional love.

How do you get back to unconditional love – the love that is your true nature? By being thrust into the opposite. You see your conditioning in sharp relief, your need for external validation, your lack of worthiness and distraction from true joy – and it is all delivered on a silver platter by your Twin Flame.

The dark night of the soul that ensues is ridiculous. There are so many dark nights that you lose count. All of your pain is brought to the surface. You cannot escape it, bury it, deny or avoid it any longer. The longing – the LOVE makes it impossible to do so. You are driven to heal EVERYTHING by the one who is EVERYTHING. What a genius, albeit excruciating plan.

What saves you is LOVE. The very love that merges with your Beloved. The love that stirs from your depths with infinite magnetism.

Love saves you. Love in the ruins of your old life. Love in the face of what is most scary and raw. The Love of your very self.

Love emerges and changes everything you knew before. You will never be the same again. You can never go back, for you are discovering who you really are and why you are here, with sublime remembrance.

You are a leader of Love, dear friend, here to help our waking world. So Godspeed, brave soul, until you love yourself as much as you love your Twin. Unconditionally.

Until you emerge from the ruins, brush off the dust, and begin to truly flourish. And bring so much unconditional love to this earth.

The BIG Question

Suzanne and I continually receive the same question from fellow Twins, asked in a multitude of ways. The question invariably boils down to ‘How can I reunite with my Twin?’

Naturally, we all have many and varied opinions in respect to such a question, but I would like to refer to my direct experience as guidance. And from that guidance, I can give you a quick and disarmingly simple answer – ‘By following your heart.’

In order to be with my Twin, I followed my heart and ignored my ego as much as I could. My heart guided me to grow spiritually.

Being spiritual means wildly different things to different people, so I will try to express what it means to me.

My personal awakening began out of a deep desire to expand my consciousness. For me, that meant sweeping away the veil of illusion. It meant  breaking down that most convincing and apparently self-evident convention that each of us exists as a separate form – that we are locked down as fragments of matter in a meaningless, and quite possibly hostile sea of time and space.

Getting spiritual essentially meant developing a palpable sense of connection to something ineffable – to a sense of wonder that informs an inner knowing. And this knowing reminded me that my human experience, so apparently rooted in limitation and suffering, was but a fleeting manifestation, a self-constructed version of reality. I realized I had forgotten who I really was.

On a more practical level, I wanted to grow in awareness so that I would no longer feel limited and fearful. But to be honest, I didn’t much like what I discovered as the way to liberate myself. Sure, I had fun rediscovering that matter, time and space are illusory constructs of experience in the mind, but I did not want to hear that in order to cease being a prisoner to this illusion, I must first surrender to it.

I found it impossibly hard, as most of us do, to accept the unacceptable – to consciously allow the world and my experience to simply be as it is, warts and all. “But isn’t there so much that needs fixing and making good?” I would insist. And while meditating on acceptance, I was bombarded by the thought that there is too much suffering in this world to just accept things as they are.

But in time, I realized that any sort of opposing or resisting merely serves to energize that which you resist.

The only way to truly make good a situation that causes you suffering is to first allow it to be as it is. And by not resisting it anymore, the situation no longer has the power to make you suffer so much. When you are not suffering, you are more aware of potential actions which may improve the situation. You can work things out with less negative emotion driving your thinking.

Applying this expanded consciousness to any situation allows you to look at it from a significantly higher perspective. Soon you stop reacting to irritations in your life. Traffic jams became far less of a problem, rude people can be forgiven more easily, and stress is no longer so, er, stressful.

We can then apply this accepting attitude to the big stuff too. It works in the same way. Our Twin won’t talk to us – consciously allow them to be what they are now! You will find an infinite reserve of forgiveness you didn’t know you had, and in so-doing grow immeasurably.

We know just how hard it can be, but whatever your Twin Flame situation is, allow it to be as it is. Allow the light of your expanded awareness to shine upon it in order to heal it. Accept your Twin Flame experience as it arises, in all its technicolor tumult that is pushing you to grow – that is asking you to expand your consciousness. And remember the infinite Love from whence you came, before you fell into the trap of believing that the material world of separate forms is all there is.

 

 

Happy New Year, fellow Twins

For all of you bravely walking the Twin Flame path, know that you are getting closer to yourself with every step. Know that your efforts are not in vain and that your soul is rejoicing in your growth. Unconditional love is your shining goal. It is what your Twin is testing you to embrace. Most of all, you are being pushed to unconditionally love yourself. That is the grace found in each dark night.

So keep going, courageous friend, and rescue yourself back to LOVE. Rescue yourself so completely that you flourish! But how? It starts with simple joys.

Find the fun in each moment, and let it lead to the harmony you seek. Find the playfulness that was lost as a serious adult, and return yourself to lightness and fun. There, you will powerfully thrive! And help so many by lighting the way back to joy.

We Love You!

Spencer & Suzanne

Your Love is Unconditional

Your Twin Flame challenges push you through things you wouldn’t have tolerated before. They do this so that you finally surrender to unconditional love. That is what frees you from your struggle and gets you to your Twin.

The incredible, romantic love that you feel guides you. It pulls you ever-forward through the process so that you keep going and don’t give up. And your Twin Flame situation is so challenging because that is what gets you to surrender to unconditional love.

Your other half pushes you to love them unconditionally, even under dire human circumstances. In fact, things have to get so bad with your Twin, to the point where you destroy all prior conditions you’ve put on your relationship. Because you can’t put your Twin into an old box of conditional love. They will never fit there.

You must embrace the unconditional with so much courage that you are lost. That is how you find yourself. That is how you become ready to have an entirely different kind of relationship – the only one that will work with your Twin. One that has no limitations and is elevated with infinite bliss.

To the ego, this process is extremely scary. It doesn’t help that your Twin plays their role perfectly. They do whatever it takes until you lose your judgments and choose all-forgiving, all-accepting love.

Your Twin presents you with red flags and deal breakers until you start to feel intense judgment towards them. In fact, everything your Twin does wrong gets almost ludicrous and completely unacceptable. After much agony and emotional unrest, you reach your breaking point. You finally realize the only thing that will rescue you is forgiveness and love, and you accept your Twin at last. In so doing, you finally accept yourself.

On the other side, you feel total, unconditional love for all. This is your Twin Flame goal. Because as a Twin, you are on a path of acceptance. You are here to accept everyone and everything and trust the plan of your reunion. When you do, things fall into place perfectly. When you have faith in your Twin Flame process, your universe positively blooms! We know because we are experiencing this first hand.

At the end, you will say, “Thank you, my beautiful, perfect Twin! You helped me to shed the limitations that kept me down all my life.” You will be ready to create with love instead of fear. And you will thrive like you’ve never known before.

You are shining and empowered, and flourishing in ultimate love. And you can make the life of your dreams with your achingly gorgeous Beloved.

Readying for Bliss

Twin Flame love feels more blissful than you can hold. It wakes you up to pure joy and gives you back yourself. But this bliss also highlights what’s been keeping you from it. It intensifies your limitations so that you finally heal them. So that you are ready to permanently live in immense and ever-joyful love.

Your Twin Flame relationship is acclimating you to bliss. It is challenging you to stop blocking yourself from it. And at the core of this clearing is a regaining of self-worth. You are removing what’s in the way of seeing how divinely perfect you are. And how worthy you are of total, ecstatic joy.

That is why your Twin Flame relationship is a process. It is a series of monumental challenges that ask for courageous steps. And through these steps, you are pushed to finally love yourself. Because self-love is vital for your Twin Flame union. For until you love yourself, you won’t be able to stand the ecstasy of permanently joining with your Twin. In fact, such bliss will feel downright unbearable.

Until you love yourself, you won’t be able to sit next to your Twin for long. You will start to squirm and ask, “Who me? I can’t possibly deserve this joy!” You will come up with several reasons why you don’t, and your limitations will be laid bare. And this will feel so intense and unjustly cruel – though the purpose is to finally heal.

Such discomfort can feel impossible. It might tempt you to blame your Twin or deny your love. It might spur you to make excuses, cling to your old life, and run for the nearest door – run from what cries out to be loved in yourself.

Indeed, the emotions that your Twin triggers can feel nightmarish. And you might think that it’s all their fault. Your Twin’s behavior might even back this up! But they are giving you the opportunity for ultimate healing. Your Twin is helping you to shed your own feelings of unworthiness until you find yourself again. For only then can you bask in the balmy acceptance of unconditional love. Only then can you stand your gorgeous relationship and bathe in its sacred bliss.

Imagine a partnership with zero insecurity. Imagine a life where you feel completely worthy of the greatest love at every moment of the day – something you may not have realized was challenging! Imagine what it’s like to rejoin with your Twin and feel total ecstasy. This is what you are being prepared for. And it is exponential joy. We know because it has happened to us.

For all of you struggling to be with your other half, what you seek is more alive than anything you’ve ever known, and you are being guided to have it again. Because expansive bliss is your true essence and what you are made of. Your human self simply forgot this for a time. Your Twin is here to remind you.

You are being readied for what all humans want – awe-inspiring, gorgeous, romantic love. The kind you’ve always known was real in your heart. The kind you will fully know when you fully love yourself. For then you will resonate with your sacred union and realize ultimate bliss. You will flourish in your immaculate partnership with your utterly perfect other half.

Suzanne & Spencer