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The Pain of Separation

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If there was one wish my beloved Suzanne and I could be granted, we would wish for our dear TwinFlame friends to be free of their pain—the pain of separation.

However, from a spiritual growth perspective, one knows that this pain is a great gift; this pain drives us to seek oneness within ourselves, for only that can assuage the intense torment of separation.

To seek oneness with another, especially your Twin, is what this pain seams to be guiding you towards. Yet this longing actually reinforces the greatest truth that we forgot so completely, so long ago. And this truth is the great liberator.

All human suffering is born of the fact that we believe we are separate; and moreover, only something ‘other’ than us, something outside, can heal us. For Twin Flames, this means that we yearn for union so fervently because we believe that it will make us whole. We believe that reunion will heal us.

The illusion is certainly convincing enough. Clearly our bodies are separate forms, aren’t they? Well not really, and science now understands this. The fact is—and it is a demonstrable fact—that there are no boundaries between bodies and between forms. We are all literally interconnected at the quantum level. Finally, science and spirituality agree on something! So in the highest states of consciousness, we are all one. Like the Dalai Lama and his favorite hotdog, we are one with everything.

So we can begin to conceive that the Twin we yearn for so terribly is in fact already part of us, is already within us, and only a state of consciousness keeps us in a state of tormenting illusion. And if we seek out the highest path, the path of self-mastery and self-love, then we can gently break open this illusion. We can allow the truth of Divine Love to engulf our being, and then we know that we are already in union in a higher dimension—a dimension we cannot perceive yet with our present state of consciousness.

But how can we even begin to dispel such a unilaterally irresistible illusion of separation?

We begin by learning to redirect the love we have for our Twin inward upon ourselves. We meditate on the truth that we are all one in the higher dimensions, and we fully embody this as solid belief. And soon, that same self-love is available for all of creation down here in the lower density. We are all elevated towards unconditional love—the undying love of Twin Flames.

The role of the Twin Flame is to intensify our sense of separation and the feeling of incompleteness, to the point where we just can’t take it anymore. We lose our minds in the madness, literally, and then stop letting our minds rule. We fall to our knees and open our hearts to the truth that we forgot—that we have always been completely whole. We simply forgot who we were for a little while.

Infinite Love,

Spencer

 

 

Honor Yourself Always

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One of the most important Twin Flame lessons is that exhibiting unconditional love for your Beloved does not mean dishonoring yourself. In fact, unconditional love requires honoring yourself always. When you insist upon this, you clear your limitations from love. You end excruciating patterns with your other half.

It starts with you. If your life is not honoring you at this very moment, then you alone must fix it instead of waiting until you’re with your Twin. If you are being compromised in any way in your relationship, you are to stand up for yourself and make changes. Because human rules still apply, even with the other half of your soul. Most of all, if your Twin is disrespecting you even for a moment, you are to set clear boundaries and walk away if necessary, no excuses.

But aren’t boundaries a form of separation? They are the circle around your own wholeness. This wholeness is required to unite with your other half. Because two wounded halves don’t make a whole. And until you respect yourself in your thoughts, words, deeds, your treatment from others, and the life you are creating, you will not be able to have a successful union.

Wholeness is the shining goal that your Twin Flame separation has been guiding you towards. And it’s all about your relationship with yourself. Because external relationships mirror your internal relationship back to you. When you establish healthy boundaries with anyone, you learn to establish boundaries with yourself. You solidify your internal self-respect, and this is reflected in your experiences.

You see, you only tolerate from others what you tolerate from yourself. And until you love yourself unconditionally, you can’t love anyone else this way too. You put conditions on love and doubt your worthiness of it.

This is such a crucial part of the Twin Flame paradigm, and it is the basis of all spirituality. Everything starts and ends with you, and your Twin Flame relationship is the ultimate reflection. It brings out how you’re not honoring yourself and makes it obvious for you to see. It pushes you to end your own internal suffering, thereby ending its reflection in your life.

This is played out in your Twin Flame challenges, which means that they may compromise you completely. As may your Twin! Until you finally say “Enough” and ask for more for yourself.

Learning to ask for more is a growth process that most Twins experience. Anything that you’ve been denying yourself will make itself clear in your Twin’s eyes. All the parts of you that you have not loved will come out for you to see. Your goal is to embrace yourself with so much forgiveness and love that you cherish every part of yourself from now on. Unconditionally. And you treat yourself like sacred royalty. Because that is who you are, courageous friend.

You are a brave leader who has come here to bring unconditional love to our earth. You are here to help at this pivotal time for humanity and make a dramatic impact. Your Twin Flame process is guiding you there, towards the most powerful reunion with your Twin. And your very soul is being put back together, one life-changing step at a time.